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Thank you guys https://youtu.be/2_TPmfd02xc My soul for the money wasn’t the trade off, can you relate? 

No photos of me will be hitting the internet while this person is using divination against me. Whenever I feel comfortable I’ll share my before and afters. Thank you for your understanding.https://youtu.be/y8Gf4-eT3w0https://youtu.be/4DEpKPv1vDY 

Hey dudes and dudettes, so I know I was suppose to post this Monday but I just have a lot going on in my personal life right now plus I’ve been actually considering deleting all my online presence due to a stalker that’s being dealt with behind the scenes so I ask for your understanding, this has been extremely taxing on my mental and emotional health so I don’t know how present I will be from here on out, but I hope you enjoy todays episode. Btw since I’m actually scared to death to post on my instagram I’ll leave some before and after photos on our next episode so you can see the difference shadow work does to your body, ok bye. https://youtu.be/OqR71_BYS-c https://youtu.be/i1nindf1meE  Carl Jung: Tarot Cards Provide Doorways to the Unconscious, and Maybe a Way to Predict the Future | Open CultureTarot Cards: An Investigation of their Benefit as a Tool for Self Reflectionhttps://labyrinthos.co/blogs/learn-tarot-with-labyrinthos-academy/carl-jung-and-jungian-archetypes-in-the-tarot-the-various-aspects-of-our-selves (this is actually my favourite deck lol)  

Yes, another rant, bear with me.https://youtu.be/bXWfc8kmTaw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QFFdSR6U_kc  DM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini Follow me on TikTok: @mbaldini97 

Hey guys, this episode was suppose to be about the benefits of being self aware, however I basically just ranted for 40 min about my personal life, hope you appreciate the update. https://youtu.be/baTxdSdYR5E https://youtu.be/zMEzD2G2IKA DM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini 

Merry Christmas dudes and dudettes.https://youtu.be/ZeqtqDLZJFI

On todays episode we will explore the aftermath of relationships with toxic people and the effects it may have on your health.Psychological violence by toxic people can include verbal and emotional abuse, toxic projection, stonewalling, sabotage, smear campaigns, triangulation along with a plethora of other forms of coercion and control. This is imposed by someone who lacks empathy, demonstrates an excessive sense of entitlement and engages in interpersonal exploitation to meet their own needs at the expense of the rights of others, so the increased levels of stress are obviously going to have a negative affect on your physical health. Do yourself a favor and leave these people out in the cold where they belong.The version of you they deserve https://youtu.be/cSB7ByIvarE Studies, articles and books:Health and Social Relationships: The Good, the Bad, and the Complicated on JSTORhttps://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Famp0000129  Patterns of attachment, interpersonal relationships and health | 15 | Social Relationships and Health. Psychological stress and cancer | Journal of Analytical Science and Technology | Full Text DM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini Follow me on TikTok: @mbaldini97 

On todays episode we're going to talk about the nice guy paradox, the nice guy stereotype asserts that, although women often say that they wish to date nice, submissive men, when actually given a choice that's not the partner we go for. So i'm going to break down why this happens and how to avoid entrapping yourself in a submissive role for the sake of not rocking the boat. Studies and article: Physical Attractiveness and the “Nice Guy Paradox”: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? | SpringerLinkDating preferences of university women: An analysis of the nice guy stereotypeNiceness and Dating Success: A Further Test of the Nice Guy Stereotype | SpringerLink   The Predictive Validity of Ideal Partner Preferences in Relationship Formation: What We Know, What We Don't Know, and Why It Matters - Campbell - 2014 - Social and Personality Psychology Compass DM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini Follow me on TikTok: @mbaldini97 

On todays episode we’ll be discussing masculine and feminine energy and interpersonal relationships. The more opposed the energies are between two people (masculine vs. feminine energy), the stronger the attraction is within the relationship, this doesn’t mean that relationships where two similar energies come together can’t work but it will be burdensome on the party that caves and eventually bends to their partners will. And remember in relationships, you are what you attract. Stop trying to look for the right person and start trying to become the right person.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=asEj-c4ZnXE   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bDbj5Cis1q4  Studies and article: Power Strategies in Interpersonal Relationships: The Effects of Expertise and Gender - Lynda M. Sagrestano, 1992A Review of Theoretical Approaches to Interpersonal Power  https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Marie-France-Lafontaine/publication/301967285_Toward_Renewed_Constructions_of_Masculinity_and_Femininity_Measuring_Significant_Psychological_Differences_between_Young_Men_and_Women's_Subjective_Experiences_in_Their_Romantic_Relationships/links/57d7ef5d08ae6399a398f85b/Toward-Renewed-Constructions-of-Masculinity-and-Femininity-Measuring-Significant-Psychological-Differences-between-Young-Men-and-Womens-Subjective-Experiences-in-Their-Romantic-Relationships.pdfFeminine lost: Why most women are male Jennifer Granger - Steven Glasgow, 2015  https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/089801019801600212  DM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini Follow me on TikTok: @mbaldini97 

On todays episode we’re going to talk about performative empathy, what it is and what it isn’t. Let me tell you what it is not, GENUINE, if someone only does good deeds or showers you with attention once in a blue moon it's not empathy - it's theater. So today I’ll be giving you some ways to identify PE and how to avoid falling for this manipulation tactic. Empathy is not a one week performative act, it’s a lifetime commitment.“Selective solidarity exposes the self-serving impulse to bolster ones ego (and ease ones conscience), all while avoiding the necessarily difficult and costly practices of allyship for the cheap knock-off of performative compassion.” ― Jamie Arpin-RicciStudies and article: Impulsive performative identity: Is it just pointless narcissism? – Politics, Protest, Emotion: Interdisciplinary Perspectives How to Identify Failed Empathy in the Narcissistic Personality - Couples InstituteMacro- Empathy: Feelings and Data | by ThatOwlGuy | MediumDM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini Follow me on TikTok: @mbaldini97 

On today's episode we’ll be discussing weaponized empathy, having empathy is important, but an excess of empathy can be a problem, toxic and manipulative people love to take advantage of others peoples kindness and compassion, so I’ll break down how we can avoid getting ourselves into situations we can’t get ourselves out of. Being mindful about how you manage empathy and compassion will help you set boundaries and practice self-care. Whether you are an empath or whether you are just highly empathetic, it is important to know how to manage empathy."The problem isn't that Johnny can't read. The problem isn't even that Johnny can't think. The problem is that Johnny doesn't know what thinking is. He confuses it with feeling." - Thomas SowellStudies and article: Self-compassion, empathy, and helping intentionsVarieties of Empathy-Based Guilt - ScienceDirect Is Self‐Compassion Selfish? The Development of Self‐Compassion, Empathy, and Prosocial Behavior in Adolescence - Marshall - 2020 - Journal of Research on Adolescence - Wiley Online Library II. Violations of Power, Adaptive Blindness and Betrayal Trauma Theory. Scapegoating Archives - Narcissistic Abuse Rehab Full article: Perpetrator Responses to Victim Confrontation: DARVO and Victim Self-Blame How ’empathy’ became a weapon we use against others - The Washington PostDM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini Follow me on TikTok: @mbaldini97 

Studies and articles: On todays episode we're going to discuss weaponized vulnerability, toxic people thrive on exhorting others vulnerabilities. It is both their love language and their victory speech.  This kind of dynamic is extremely unhealthy and traumatizing for whoever is on the receiving hand of this kind of treatment, so to prevent that I’ll be talking not only from personal experience but also from data I gathered from the studies bellow. And remember  that the majority of people who end up personally involved with toxic people have not learned healthy boundaries in their upbringing. They view “not sharing” as “withholding”  but that's not true,  in reality, they shouldn’t be sharing deep emotional thoughts with anyone other than your closest confidants. (Excuse my squeaky chair)Studies and articles: You probably think this paper's about you: narcissists' perceptions of their personality and reputationA Critique of VulnerabilityWhen is too soon to be vulnerable? — Dear John, MD https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0016338  Vulnerability to Bullying: Teacher-reported conduct and emotional problems, hyperactivity, peer relationship difficulties, and prosocial behaviour in primary school children: Educational Psychology Adult attachment style and narcissistic vulnerability.DM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini Follow me on TikTok: @mbaldini97 

On todays episode we'll be discussing Reverse psychology, SSA is used as a general persuasion tactic that we are exposed to daily. SSA doesn’t work on everyone but it tends to be extremely effective on a specific demographic. This manipulation tactic is done in a covert manner, so today I’m going to break down some of the most common ways manipulators use it to exploit your weaknesses in order to get their desired outcome.  Studies and articles: Is There Such a Thing as Reverse Psychology?https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Rudrani-Sharma-2/publication/356726784_Impact_of_Narcissism_on_Sexual_Coercion_in_Young_Adult_Women/links/61a8d76550e22929cd3ee03f/Impact-of-Narcissism-on-Sexual-Coercion-in-Young-Adult-Women.pdfhttps://www.researchgate.net/publication/233021679_Do_people_use_reverse_psychology_An_exploration_of_strategic_self-anticonformity DM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini Follow me on TikTok: @mbaldini97 

On todays episode we’ll be discussing power plays and the power dynamics in interpersonal a relationships. Power is a driving force for many people and it plays a vital role in relationships.  Understanding common power dynamics can help you resolve conflict and create a more balanced and emotionally secure relationship.Don’t became a loser trying to be a lover!Studies and articles: Communication in Abusive Relationships: Cognitive Constructions of Interpersonal Power - DAPHNE BLUNT BUGENTAL, 1993Power Strategies in Interpersonal Relationships: The Effects of Expertise and Gender - Lynda M. Sagrestano, 1992A Review of Theoretical Approaches to Interpersonal Power  DM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini Follow me on TikTok: @mbaldini97 

On todays episode we’re going to talk about victim blaming, victim blaming is generally frowned upon in todays society as a result of human evolution, however people that engage in this kind of behavior are still out there so I just wanted to touch on this to make sure the victims of wrongdoing don’t feel shame for someone else's intolerable behavior.It’s never your fault, you can’t control anyone or anything outside of yourself. Studies and articles: Sexual Objectification Increases Rape Victim Blame and Decreases Perceived Suffering - Steve Loughnan, Afroditi Pina, Eduardo A. Vasquez, Elisa Puvia, 2013 An intimate relationship in the shadow of narcissism: What is it like to live with a narcissistic spouse?The Ego and the Mechanisms of DefenceWhy Narcissists Are Unwilling to Apologize: The Role of Empathy and Guilt - Joost M. Leunissen, Constantine Sedikides, Tim Wildschut, 2017Why Do People Blame the Victim? DM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini Follow me on TikTok: @mbaldini97 

On todays episode we'll be discussing boundaries, toxic people view themselves as uniquely gifted and therefore feel entitled to take advantage of other people. They do not possess healthy boundaries, nor do they like it when others set limits against their intrusions so today I'll show you how to set boundaries and limit your exposure to these types of people. Research shows that toxic people and the people they target share a common ground of not setting boundaries,  so if you tend to attract toxic people you definitely should work on your boundaries. ✨NO✨: https://youtu.be/cMTAUr3Nm6IStudies and articles:Narcissistic Temptations to Cross Boundaries and How to Manage Them - Stanley J. Coen, 2007Boundaries and Structure in Love Relations - Otto F. Kernberg, 1977How to Set Boundaries with TOXIC People - Sharon Martin, LCSW - Narcissist Abuse SupportHow to Set Boundaries with TOXIC People - Sharon Martin, LCSW - Narcissist Abuse Support DM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini Follow me on TikTok: @mbaldini97 

On todays episode we'll be discussing Bait and Switch. There are various types of baiting and a lot of them overlap with one another, they are used to elicit some sort of emotional response or reaction out of you. Chances are, you’ve fallen for them many times before, but not anymore. Education is the best prevention against manipulation so here we are lol.Studies and articles: Determining coercion: A qualitative study of online reactions to sexual assault"Bait and Switch" as a Form of Manipulation in Relationships.Intimate Partner Violence - PTSDPsychological therapies for women who experience intimate partner violence - Hameed, M - 2020 | Cochrane LibraryDM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini Follow me on TikTok: @mbaldini97 

On this episode we’ll be discussing love bombing and I’ll be giving you a couple of warning signs that show that you might be dating a love bomber. While it sounds idyllic, this behavior can be a huge red flag as it is a pattern that can be associated with underlying abuse and a potentially toxic relationship, it seems innocent however this effect is always followed by devaluing and discarding. The best defense against these attacks are and forever will be a very high self esteem, education and a secure attachment style. Studies and articles: "Love-Bombing: A Narcissistic Approach to Relationship Formation" by Claire StrutzenbergLove Bombing: What It Is and Signs to Look For In a Partner - The New York Times Combatting CULT MIND CONTROL - STEVEN HASSANLove bombing: a simple self-help intervention for parents to reset theDM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini Follow me on TikTok: @mbaldini97 

On todays episode we're going to talk about gaslighting. This is a  term you've probably heard before, but the signs can be confusing so I’ll be sharing with you some ways to identify this form of emotional abuse. Learning the meaning of gaslighting was the beginning of my liberation and maybe it can be yours too, they can’t shake your confidence, lower your self-esteem, and make you dependent on them if you know exactly what they are doing. The best defense against any kind of manipulation is education. Articles and studies:The Sociology of Gaslighting - Paige L. Sweet, 2019 Controlling behaviours: Gaslighting strategies that are developed at a school ageHow To Tell If Someone Is Gaslighting You | Newport Institute Your Reality | Award-winning short film on Gaslighting DM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini 

On todays episode we’ll be discussing how toxic partners control you and your relationship dynamic. Fist of all your partners control over you is not for your greatest good, they simply want this control over you because they want to dominate you and have their needs meet without any regard for yours. Yes, they might be extremely self serving and selfish, it’s most definitely giving napoleon complex. This kind of dynamic is extremely unhealthy and traumatizing for whoever is on the receiving hand of this kind of treatment, so to prevent that I’ll be talking not only from personal experience but also from data I gathered from the studies below. Articles and studies: https://connect.springerpub.com/content/sgrvv/26/2/208.abstract  Psychological Abuse and Depressive Symptoms in Dating Women: Do Different Types of Abuse Have Differential Effects?Do You Believe Your Partner is Capable of Killing You? An Examination of Female IPV Survivors’ Perceptions of Fatality Risk Indicators - Laura Johnson, Julia L. Cusano, Kristina Nikolova, Jordan J. Steiner, Judy L. Postmus, 2022 DM me for some big sister advice: https://www.instagram.com/margaridabaldini/ Donate towards new equipment if you feel inclined:  PayPal.Me/margaridabaldini