The MLM Moms Podcast

Hey Guys!   -   -I actually have tried another mlm a few years ago, before I joined the one I’m in now. My husband and I had just finished our Bachelors and we were on a little bit of a high. We had two daughters at the time, who were about 2 years and 6 months old, and we had finished our degrees with no debt. So we were feeling pretty good. It was a ton of work, my husband had been in the Army Reserves while in school and had been doing the ROTC program. So he had just become an Officer for the Army and we were just feeling accomplished and excited that we were done and could move onto the next thing.   But it wasn’t a totally victory yet because the next thing in life for us was actually a very intense 22 month Masters program for my husband. So we were moving for school and he would start his program in a few months. And I remember there was a night a few days after graduation and we had already moved, we went from Idaho to Utah. And we had spent the whole day getting our new basement house situated, got the kids to bed and we sat down on our old hand-me-down couch and did a deep dive of what our expenses would be like for the next 2 years. We had some money coming in from my husband being in the Army Reserves, and he was smart and had some scholarships and a stipend, but it was not enough for a family of four to live off of.   I tried to put on this confident, we can do this, rice and beans everyday will be totally fine, face on, but deep down I knew it was going to be a long 2 years and I really needed to figure out a way to bring in some money. So I actually looked into what it would cost to put the girls in day care, even just a few days a week, but the rates were so high that for the entry level job I’d be able to get it wouldn’t even be worth it to work. But I kept looking. Nothing too intense but I read ever single article that would come up on Pinterest on how to save money or how to make money from home. But there was a constant nagging that I needed to do something.   In the mean time I had actually become a customer of an mlm. I won’t say which one because I don’t mean to bash any particular company. But my husband’s cousin was in it and we were really enjoying the products, and seeing real benefits in our lives. Of course, conversations turned  toward the business and all of a sudden I found myself on the phone talking about signing up. I was a total sucker for the pitch:  I’d get to help people, I’d get a discount of prices, and that kicker line of “can you imagine having 500 + more dollars coming in every month” I was FLOORED at. I know $500 probably doesn’t seem like a lot to many of you but for our situation that would be like getting mana from heaven! That would have meant we wouldn’t have to take out Student loans, which while they were our saving grace I REALLY hate debt. It would have kept us from having to use food stamps which was a huge hit on our pride and our stubborn side.   So I convinced my husband that we should do it, and I just dove in. I did all the classics. I wrote a list of all the people I knew who I thought would benefit from the products, then sent the same fairly generic message to all of them. I post on social media pictures of me with the product, or just the product with a “you should do this too!” Type message. I honestly tried, and I’m not bashing on my cousin, or the company or anything. They are just doing what everyone else is doing, but that’s what everyone has done since the 90s. But I REALLY didn’t like feeling like I was hunting for people ya know?   It just felt like a lot of pushing and chasing. It never seemed to end. It was honestly so discouraging. I was seeing other people be successful and it just wasn’t happening for me.    I would bet that if you’re listening to this podcast you’ve probably experienced similar things. You’ve grown tired of the hunt for people to join and then not live up to the potential you see in them. You’ve had the thoughts of “Man, I know she could have been great” or “it would have been amazing to have her do this” or “how come they can’t just do these few things?” You’ve probably been there before and maybe even been that person, and honestly, that’s totally ok.   That first mlm experience was a really big dud, and while the MLM I’m in now I have had MUCH bigger success with selling, the recruiting has been the same. Luckily it only took a few months to realize that I was being asked by my upline to do the exact thing I had done before. I’m sure you guys have heard the saying “The definition of Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expect different results”.   I realized that so many of these tactics that we were taught by the upline, by the company, they were all really old. It’s all very very very old tactics. Have you ever been in a phone store when someone comes in with a phone that’s even just 5 years old? What about 10 years old? I don’t think it’s always a snooty reaction but I mostly think it’s a “you do know how much better the options are now right?” But it’s the same with MLM, its the same with marketing, it’s the same with business in general. With how incredibly different technology is today than even ten years ago, why on earth would be still be doing the exact same things with our businesses.   Yet for every mlm out there the main tactic across the board is “sit and write down a list of 15-20 people, then reach out to them continunously until they buy the product or join your downline.” OR the slightly newer one of “do parties on FB and have your host add as many people as possible and spam everyone with posts about the company. But that’s how we get damaged relationships, that’s how we become the person that everyone avoids at social gatherings. That’s the person that everyone unfollows on FB right?   I needed something different to get me where I want to be. After my husband finished his masters program we moved about an hour north of where he went to school for a residency at a Hospital. He had gone to school to become a chaplain in the Army and he needed experience to be able to become an Active Duty Chaplain so he found a year long residency and it paid, well . And we were a family of 5. But we were actually making it work and even putting everything extra towards paying off all the student loans. But our cars were starting to get old and sounding clunky, our clothes were looking old, and we started to get to the phase of our marriage when we needed to start replacing some things. We were taking each expense at a time and handling it however we could but then there was a day when my husband found out that because of a change in how the Army processes some paperwork he wouldn’t be able to start working as an active duty chaplain until close to January. And we were planning on it being early September. So now all of a sudden we are trying to figure out how we were going to cover at least 4 months of expenses. That night was so stressful. We knew we both were capable and hardworking so we’d figure something out but there’s a quote in the moving “Becoming Jane” and it’s Jane Austin’s father and he says “Nothing destroys the spirit like poverty.” That was how I felt.  After years of being poor penny pinching students I didn’t want to do it anymore.   The next day was grocery shopping day, and I typically make my list a few days before I go, but I made a really silly mistake of not revising the list after hearing the news that we were going to have this unemployment phase. And I had my three kids with me and I was just on edge that day and I just went in “List following” mode, let’s get this done as quickly as possible so I run around the store with my three rambugious girls and I get to the check out line and this store doesn’t have baggers so when it’s my turn I take the chart all the way to the end and start bagging as the cashier is scanning everything. I go back to pay and when she said the amount I just got really choked up and started to cry. I was so flustered by how crazy my kids were being that morning and just still flooded by the change in plans that I couldn’t even think clearly to have some of the extras taken off the bill so I paid for the groceries and just was all teary the walk to my car.   It was such a miserable feeling. I got in the car and texted my husband just feeling so bad about how much I had just spent and promising not to do it again and headed home and the WHOLE Drive home I just kept having the same phrase playing in my head. SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE> YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING NOW. So I did. I got my crap together, found a mentor, Stephen to teach me how to make my business an actual business instead of just a hobby, or side hustle. I NEEDED REAL income. I didn’t have time to waste anymore on chasing people who didn’t want to be a part of what I was building. One of my favorite quotes right now is from a brand strategist and just awesome person, Alison Faulkner, from The Alison Show. And she says that You should only invest yourself in people who invest in you. So I’m applying that to my mlm. I’m not going to spend all my time asking every single living person I know if they are interested. I’m being smart, I’m using marketing tools, and I’m bringing people to me who WANT it.   ***This whole podcast is how to work MLM without going to family members and friends, without going to events and word barfing all over every person who stops for a second at your booth and then they leave feeling like they were smothered.   I really want to share with you everything I’ve been learning because it is seriously BLOWING me away. Basically what I’m doing is I’m using sales funnels, which is essentially just a series of webpages that take your customer through your sales process online. It’s magic though.   Because it’s online I can literally go to sleep and wake up to sales or people wanting to be on my team. I especially love it because, like I said before, I have three lit

I don’t know how long you guys have been in mlm but I’m sure even if you’ve only been in for a little bit you’re realized that there is a lot of personal development that goes on, whether you are seeking it, or not , your up line talks about it . After about a month of being in my mlm there was a warm, bright summer day I remember and I was in my kitchen cleaning while I had my iPad up and I was listening to a FB Live Training for my team. And it was great, and as the training was finishing up I was just finishing mopping and I remember the video ended and I just stood there looking at my all clean kitchen. The thought popped into my head “I’m not complaining, but my upline sure does talk about personal development type things a lot! I wonder why”   And just as quick as the question came the answer popped into my head “Well, why do you clean the kitchen?” Now, honesty moment. While it may be my goal to clean my kitchen every night, I definitely don’t always get it done every night and the seasons in my life when I do get the kitchen clean every night it’s not a head to toe, mopped and all clean every night. Anyways, we do like to at least get the dishes done and wipe the table and counter down and the reason is not because I love cleaning. Haha not at all. It’s only because for me, I feel like the kitchen is 10 times more FUNCTIONAL if it’s cleaned.   So when I’m having this conversation with myself I had a big “AH HA!” Moment. The fact of the matter is that we all have things we need to work on personally so we can have more success in our business. I’m positive you guys have all had multiple points in your business when a character flaw has exploded in your face. Business seems to do that to people. Whether its a small moment of seeing someone else do something that is amazing and its working for them but you dismiss it because “I could never do that because of xyz” or it’s a big one “I don’t like to talk to people”.   If you’re like me you’ve probably just tried to walk around it, making sure you don’t step into that circle and just make what you’re comfortable doing work. But the problem is that just avoiding those flaws and weaknesses will only get us so far. There will come a point in every entrepreneur’s path were you can’t progress until you somehow address it, get around it, or fix it.    Robert Kiyosaki ,who is the founder of Rich Dad Poor Dad and has multiple business/ entrepreneurship books, he said ““Face your fears and doubts and new worlds will open to you” Robert Kiyosaki   I’m sure it’s no surprise that when I started my first mlm I experienced some pretty major character flaws. Looking back now I realize that I really didn’t have the knowledge and know-how I needed to actually be successful with it. And now I’m able to do something about that looming “I don’t know enough” that doesn’t ever seem to leave my head. So now that I’m in my second mlm I started realizing once again I don’t know enough but other character flaws started exploding in my face. 1. Like before, I don’t know enough. 2. I actually don’t like talking one on one a whole lot 3. I’m a mom so my work hours are limited and have to be flexible. 4. What do I even say? I’m sure you’ve had similar thoughts and experiences as you’ve moved forward with your business   I realized that this time around I had to get creative. I wasn’t going to be able to do this the traditional way. I went out searching for any type of knowledge I could get my hands on that would possibly help me do this. I have a hard time sitting down and reading so I listened to books on Audible, I subscribed to marketing and business guru’s podcasts, youtube videos, everything. I just was really getting tired of constantly reaching out to another family member or friend, even though I genuinely loved my product, it just felt like I was constantly chasing my dream and had to put a ton of exhausting work for every single lead or sale. I just knew there had to be a better way.     I remember there was a late fall day when we were living in this old house,  and I was in the back where I had desk. I had spent the whole day watching, when I could,  this marketing for mlm course Stephen Larsen actually made. And he’s been REALLY successful in mlm and marketing so I was really interested to see what he was doing.   I got to the point in his course where he was talking about this things called Paid Prospecting and as he was talking I remember I kind of yelled out “No Way!” (Haha) I think I startled my husband in the other room a bit because he came in to see what was up. I knew this was a TOTALLY different way to look at MLM and this would completely change everything for me. This would 1. Actually bring people to me instead of having to hunt people down all the time and 2. Those people would actually be good, ready and productive people to have on my team.   This concept of Paid Prospecting just means that you get paid even while you’re prospecting people, meaning they haven’t even joined your team yet. Honestly, at first I thought it was too good to be true. I’m pretty sure that if I didn’t personally know Stephen I wouldn’t have believed it. I would have just thought it was another person saying crap. But the more I just sat there thinking about it the more I realized he was actually doing it and it was actually working, and in a serious way. He gave us a baseline to work with, but instead of telling us exactly what to do he challenged us to look at leaders in mlm do.   For some reason I was pretty shocked that they were all online. Well I guess most, if not all of them were online. I think the craziest part is it seemed like none of them were doing one on one calls or home meetings, which is exactly what us normal people are told to do! So as I’m researching and seeing what the top leaders do, I started to see patterns, and it really blew my mind.   And this is huge! No joke, pay attention, take notes, because this is a big golden nugget. I really am excited to share this with you because I really hate how the mlm is completely stuck in the 90s with how they teach everyone to market and I love that with these tactics moms can actually be moms and work. They can really have their cake and eat it too.     Anyways, so Almost every single one of them had their own sales funnel.  Not just a FB page, but their own web presence. And they weren’t on a site saying my product is awesome, or join my team. What they are doing is they would offer some kind of education for free. After people would take the free education, the next page wouldn’t just be a Thank you, instead it would also say “If you liked that free stuff, what goes really well with this is this CD, or thumb drive. And this little piece will help you learn how to speak better. It’s 7 dollars. It’s really cheap. If you want it, it’s a great companion with that.”   That’s awesome right? Just $7 and you’ll learn to speak better and it piggy backs this free thing you just learned and liked to $7 is no big deal because you know it will be good. Right? After that $7 thing there is this great $49 thing that teaches you the next concept, then $120 for the next thing and then maybe even $1000 to go join them to do something else. Do you see what’s happening here?   THAT’S a sales funnel! These people aren’t working with anyone who didn’t put money into the game, and it’s all because they know that the people who pay, even a little bit, are more serious. They aren’t greedy, it’s just a sifting process. There is a different mindset in someone who is willing to spend $7 to invest in themselves and their education then someone who isn’t. When you use this you are bringing very different people into your world. That’s Paid Prospecting.   Now I’ll admit, at first I had a little bit of a hard time with this concept simply because I was very serious, ambitious and ready to work, but we had no money remember? By this point my husband had graduated from his Masters but was doing a residency. We had a 3rd little girl so we had a bigger family, and we were trying to pay off all our student debt on a residency salary. I’m sure you guys will realize this more and more as we go but I really hate debt and I have really strict, umm should we say feelings or philosophy on money, especially spending it on myself. That’s really hard for me to do. So to say that only people who spend money are serious was a concept my sassy side fought for a while, because I knew it wasn’t true for me.   But the longer I tried to recruit, and guys I was really going for it. Not in a spamming way but I was really “going for the no” if you’ve heard that phrase before and I was having no fear in approaching people who I thought would do well at the business. Anyways, the longer I did that the more I realized that having people qualify themselves, getting them to raise their hand, was really brilliant and would save me so much time and frustration.   And They are getting paid to recruit! That’s crazy! They get paid regardless of if someone ends up joining or not! It’s not like they are making their million dollars that way, but the important thing is it sifts people out. The people who are time wasters, who are asking questions but are never going to join, the people who are just joining to be nice, the people who aren’t go  getters, the free loaders or leeches. This totally protects their time.   So as I was learning about this and seeing what was happening I couldn’t help but flash back to all the time I had spent talking or teaching people who ended up flaking out. All the time that was spent on the “No’s”.   I couldn’t help but want that! Want this system that would not only save me from the leeches, but brought in people who were ten times more ready, more willing to really get going in the business. I didn’t want to work my mlm the traditional way anymore. That way seems so exhausting to me now. Why would I use the tactics that were created in the 90s when the peo

EXPERT SECRETS BOOK : https://expertsecrets.com/?cf_affiliate_id=1042030&affiliate_id=1042030 When I first started the mlm I’m in now my biggest reason why I almost didn’t join was because I thought I’d have to be a good salesman, saleswoman? Yeh, I’m not that big of a feminist. Anyways, I “knew” I wasn’t a good salesman because I had completely failed before, with a product that really looking back I should have been able to get into a lot more hands. But here’s the funny thing, last time I actually had learned some “sales” tactics and practiced the scripts.   But here’s the deal, selling is not the same as marketing. They work together, but there are key differences that actually make it so that if you want to have some major financial success you HAVE to get good at marketing. That’s why it’s marketing that I’ve been learning and implementing into my business. It hasn’t been presenting myself as a professional and saying the few key phrases that get me the sales, which what I thought I had to do last time. It’s working a lot better for me to be me, to be honest with myself and others on how I am and having that be the main force in how I run my business. It’s been a lot better for me, and I think it will only continue to get better and better as I’m vulnerable instead of being put together, polished and perfect all the time.   Because the fact of the matter is that’s not me. While I am a very conservative person and I do like to get dressed up for when I go to church or military functions, on a day to day basis I am not a business or formal wear type of girl. I grew up in southern california in Carlsbad, and the beach was literally a mile away. And I played sports, especially basketball, all my life so it’s not like I was switching from a skirt suit into a swim suit into some basketball shorts. And this is NOT to say if you do wear business or more formal attire than I’m better than you. That’s not what I’m saying at all. All I’m saying is that’s not ME! I’m a mom of three littles and at home all day so why would I put on a suit.   Anyways. Haha Sorry, I can get a little passionate about that. But So when I started working with this mlm that I’m in right now I had really good sales. It’s an amazing product, A LOT of women use this type of product anyways so it wasn’t like I had to really search to find people who I could say, “hey THIS is actually even better than what you have, let me show you” So things went really well, I even hit the first rank advancement in my very first month. I was feeling pretty good but I knew I didn’t KNOW a whole lot about the products and sometimes people would ask me questions and I’d have to tell them I’d get back to them so I decided I needed to do a deep dive into the products. What was everything that we provided, what it was made up, prices, best ways to use it, All that jazz. I was feeling WAY more confident and ready each time I was talking to someone about but then this funny thing happened. My sales actually started to decline.   I started feeling very confused and frustrated because I KNEW that this was an amazing product. I KNEW that those who were purchasing were not only loving it, but it was bringing some big change and ease into their lives. But all of a sudden less and less of a percentage of the new people I was talking to were buying.   Then, luckily only a few weeks into this slump I was listening to a podcast, I’m pretty sure it was from Stephen Larsen again, he’s seriously so smart about this stuff. But he was talking about how he had the same problem when he was doing summer sales. And it took him a lot longer to figure it out but what he eventually realized was he was word barfing on them. I just love having those “oooooooohhhhhh” moments because I hate having problems that I don’t know how to solve.   But that’s totally what I was doing! I was word barfing on these poor sweet women who were probably genuinely interested and would have loved the product but because every time someone had a question I gave a 3 minute answer and would use industry words that they weren’t familiar with they would walk away. But just a simple YES or NO would have been completely sufficient 95% of the time.   It’s funny. My husband’s youngest brother is super smart in math and science. But the biggest gap between the siblings is between him and the next brother. So he’s the youngest and there’s no argument that with math and science he’s always been the smartest. I’m pretty sure when he was in high school another in law called him for help with his college course. It was AWESOME. The hilarious part is my brother in law, Garen, he gets excited about things and just starts explaining them and speaks his math and science language and every time he would do this, FOR YEARS, every time someone in the family would just start saying “Geek a de geek nerd nerd” . Like this started long before I was even in the family.   Over the course of my marriage though one of the brothers went and got a Masters in some fancy America Literature English degree and then my husband got his Masters in Military Chaplaincy, which had a ton of counseling and psychology classes. So now when we are all together as a family sometimes the boys can’t help but get excited about their work or in their playful arguments about ideas they get in their zone and just start saying words that No One Else knows, so of course, someone in the family starts calling out “Geek a de Geek Nerd Nerd!”   The funny thing is we all have our specialities. We all have a language that not everyone understands. Even a less dramatic example would be if you started talking to your husband or dad or boyfriend, who ever, start talking to a guy about makeup. Talk about all the products you use and why and while they might not get overwhelmed, if you aren’t too careful you will very quickly loose them. Have you guys ever seen NCIS. No before you check out, I promise I’ll bring this back to mlm. This has a very real connection to mlm. But every episode there is Gibbs who is the Crime solver of all crime solvers. And in his team he has Abby, his forsensic scientists and then his computer pro Magee, both Brilliant at their jobs. Almost every episode there is always a scene where one of them discovered something key to the investigation and they need to tell gibbs. Gibbs always asks a very simple question like “What do you have” and they go off rambling about the science behind it or the algorithm jargon. It’s always funny because Gibbs just gives them this look and the know they just have to give a quick answer in English instead of their specialty.   It’s the same with us and our MLMs. I did it! We talk our way out of sales and then we are like “what the heck, I just told you how awesome this product is why don’t you understand” and people are either physically or mentally slowly taking steps backwards and away from us. But we just go from person to person speaking our geek a dee geek to them and don’t stop to realize that we are not speaking the same language as them   So, Everyday I am becoming a bigger and bigger fan of these two guys, Stephen Larsen and Russell Brunson. I’ve mentioned Stephen a times before. He is my husband’s really good friend from when they were in ROTC and the Army Reserves together when we were first married and he is very quickly becoming THE MLM Marketing Guru, maybe just even the MLM Guru. So I reached out to him and found everything he teaches first. Then Russell Brunson is a, if not the Top Marketer. He really helped make sales funnel common knowledge in the business world and his software, Clickfunnels, which I’m sure I’ll talk about in a later episode has just changed the game because it makes it so people like me can build and make sales funnels SUPER easily and quickly. ANYWAYS, Stephen ended up being Russell’s number 2 for a few years and these guys are just powerhouses and I’ve been learning A TON from them.   Anyways, in Russell’s book the “Expert Secrets”, which I completely recommend, I’ll even put the link to it in the show notes description place because it’s only available on his website, but he teaches you how to sell without being “salesy”. The book teaches you how to deliver a message, how to put together a product and an offer, how to get the sales and marketing of something put together. And one of the most important thing he teaches to do all that is what’s called the epiphany bridge.   What I have to do is go back and think how do I actually convey my mlm is a way that can be received by another person? How do I do I actually do that? I need to tell a story. Stories are what causes belief and beliefs drive everything in our lives. Sometimes we actually have real and even false beliefs. We have these beliefs and whether they are true or not there is an experience that is the driving force. There is some kind of story that is powering that belief.   So if I want to change my mind then all I have to do is change the story that’s going on inside my head. That’s Tony Robbins. “Change your story change your life.” Now to change the story we have to tell a story. It’s really hard to just say, no that story isn’t true, we need to switch the story.   If you guys go back to the first episode of this podcast you will see what I was doing. I was purposefully telling the story of my first mlm and then me starting out again. Through telling a story I tried to help you get into the state that I was in, the desperation and then overwhelming excitement, all those different parts, and I got you into the same state.   I described the environment and getting you into the same state so then you can start to have some experiences with me and then you start to think “yeah, that makes sense.” And you start to have these little epiphanies with me.   You have the realization, I didn’t jump out and tell you right? So that’s the epiphany bridge. You get someone in the same state, and help them realize why. It always n

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The other night I was watching some replays from the Olympics and NBC had done a segment on one of the USA Men solo figure skaters, who was projected to medal. He did an amazing routine, and I think he got 4th place because the top three Really Really blew everyone away. Anyways, in the segment they were showing cute clips of when he first started skating when he was like 5 years old, maybe even younger. They showed a clip of him after a competition when he was 8 and the interviewer asked something like when he’ll make it big and this little eight year old said he’d be at the 2018 olympics! All this amazing stuff of how in love with skating he is and how driven he has been, even at such a young age. Showing his first skating coach, all this stuff. One of the people they showed was his ballet teacher, who was from some fancy special company.   Anyways,  what I LOVED was when the ballet teacher was talking and he said that the most important lesson that he taught, I think it was Nathan Chen, but the lesson was that he had to learn to be Comfortable being Uncomfortable. The ballet teacher continued to explain that it’s because Nathan really embraced the lesson, that’s why he has been so amazing and now on the olympic team. He learned to be comfortable being uncomfortable.   I REALLY LOVED That because as I was sitting there watching the olympics I was actually avoiding somethings I knew I needed to get done for work, one of them ironically being recording an episode for this podcast so I could launch it. I’m not super comfortable talking, I actually even have some minor hearing problems, which makes talking to people exciting sometimes. But because of my hearing and I having young kids, the last 5 or so years I’ve really taken a step back socially and I normally hide behind my kids, and especially my husband. He is actually a Chaplain in the Army, which isn’t a common job, and it’s not a very well understood job, especially in our religion, so at any sort of social event people are always very interested in his career and everything so I just got really used to and comfortable being in the background and being the supporting wife who keeps everything together behind the scenes.    So when I started this business adventure and I was challenged by my mentor to start publishing and getting my message out there it was INCREDIBLY daunting to me. And I did a lot, mostly subconsciously, but some intentionally, like watching an olympic segment when I was supposed to be working, to avoid things.  But it was so ironic because here I was, avoiding work because it made me really nervous and uncomfortable, and then there is this teacher who helped someone get to the Olympics, he is right in front of me saying that the key to greatness is to Be Comfortable Being Uncomfortable.   It’s completely true though. Uncomfortable things aren’t bad, they are just uncomfortable because they are new, it’s unknown territory Most of the time it requires us to be vulnerable because we will be putting ourself out there and now the world can judge us and throw their opinions out. So it can be scary, and maybe even paralyzing. But if we just stick with what we are comfortable with then we won’t get any new results. So I realized that if I want to meet my goals and getting my business to making six figures then I had to start doing things differently. On one of my favorite podcasts, 8 Minute Millionaire, the hosts Tara and Justin Williams often say that it’s the things that we are most afraid of doing that are the most important thing for us to do for our business to succeed. So I finished the segment and then got up over to my desk and got some work to do and I want to challenge you to do the same thing. I’m sure you can think of something that you have thought would be good for your business but shy-ed away from it because of XYZ. So I want you to do it. Let’s do it together. Do it this week and let me know how it goes. It might not be perfect at first but the more you tackle it, the better you’ll get at it, the more it will be able to serve you and your business. So let me know how that goes, what you did and I look forward to hear what you guys started! Until next time! 000004E1 000004E6 0000D26D 0000D26D 0004FB34 0004FB34 0000824E 0000824E 0004FA63 0004FA63

In episode 4 I told you guys how I had been working on a free course I had created and then authenticity slapped me in the face and punched me in the stomach. Well I’ve learned even more from doing that one project that I wanted to share.   So I’ve been working on it more and I’m pretty sure I have rewritten it about 3 times now. I just keep on thinking of things and when I’m reading the finished draft it just still doesn’t sound quite right. It’s just been quite the process and the other morning I was feeling pretty defeated like I was failing and maybe I just wasn’t meant to do this. So I stopped working, changed my clothes and started working out. I really like to exercise every day, it makes me happy and this last year I’ve been focusing on getting strong instead of just loosing weight. I just work out from home so I’m not throwing around big giant weights but I’m making due with 20s being my heaviest. And each workout I try to focus on a muscle group and then work it to muscle failure.   So I’m lifting these weights and I’m starting to really struggle. At first it wasn’t too hard, I was feeling pretty good. But man, by the end of the second round of the exercises I was really sweating and I’m huffing and puffing. I guess I was clearly showing the struggle in my face because my 5 year old, Emma started asking me why I exercise if its so hard.   I was so excited because I love when they ask me and I get to teach them about taking care of our bodies and being strong women. So I got all happy and answered saying that the harder it is for me to do, the stronger I’ll get. And if I keep going then one day I’ll be really good at it and it won’t be hard anymore.    Being 5 of course she just gave an “oh cool” shrugged her shoulders a little bit and was on her merry little way, but I was feeling so proud of myself for planting that seed and teaching her that pushing through the hard makes us stronger. So I’m back up standing already working on the next exercise, feeling so good, had a little pep in my step. And then I realize. Uhhh, Michelle, you want to say that one more time and just look in the mirror?   Emma clearly didn’t internalize the lesson. It’s not like that 20 seconds forever shaped her life and now she will never back down from anything hard. I’d be very surprised if she could even tell me the lesson, and it was just a few days ago. But I had a very distinct thought that if I wanted her to learn and know that lesson, then I needed to LIVE it.   Talking the talk was only going to get so far, and I really really want my girls to be strong women. I want them to know that they are capable and can do anything. I don’t want them to ever feel the pains I have felt because of situational and self imposed limitations.  So I finished my workout strong, and now it’s time to work again and I am fighting those negative thoughts. I’m pushing those inadequacies.  And you know what? I’m on the 5th rewrite but I think I’ve actually got it this time! My course creation, and even just writing muscles are getting stronger! I’m really excited about it.   I do think the BEST part of this whole lesson learned was when that night Austin and I were watching an episode of the Office and it was when Michael Scott started his own paper company, and they had done a pancake breakfast to get some new customers and during the pancake breakfast Michael and Ryan were goofing off but Pam actually talked to a guy who came, gave him the companies information and then later that day made the companies first sale! And then they cut to a scene with Michael relaxed in his chair and he says, “who would have thought that the thing to save this business would be hard work” I just started DYING! Because it seems like such a big “well duh” when you hear him say it like that, but in the moment it’s hard. It’s so much easier to back away from the hard, just avoid it and do all the fun stuff. But that’s not what gets real success. That’s not what saves companies.   That’s all I have for you today. Hopefully that helps someone keep pushing and just don’t be too hard on yourself when you aren’t super awesome at every aspect of your business! You’re not a failure, you just need to strengthen the muscle! So keep pushing yourself, get every last bit you can out of that weak skill, and you’ll get better. I can tell it’s happening for me   Until next time! You’ve got this! 000004B4 000004B8 0000C87B 0000C87B 00053F92 00053F92 00007F22 00007F22 00044F43 00044F43

You HAVE to stand out from the crowd

Don't glorify the hustle. Be willing to do the work, but have a time of rest. Inspired by an interview of Lara Casey

Let me tell you why it's important to not try and sell to everyone.

It's always fun when your 5 year old teaches you a super valuable lesson

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I’m not going to lie, I’ve been struggling a little bit. I am almost done with the marketing course I’m creating and for some reason I keep on not getting it done. I’m letting myself shy away from it and get distracted by other things. Yes, sometimes it’s getting distracted by my phone or social media, which is why I try to always leave my phone in a different room than where I am working. But what was really taking my time were things that don’t really matter, or at least just aren’t the most important thing right now. An analogy I’ve heard before and can’t remember where is that having a business is like building a building. Before anything is built you have to do a lot of work. You have to clear the area, and level it and then you can lay for foundation. So far nothing looks pretty, you don’t have anything exciting to show people. But now you get to build the house brick by brick. One small action at a time. Still you can look around and think you have nothing exciting to show for all your hard work, so you want to start putting in fancy details, maybe you want to stop laying bricks and plan out all the interior decor, or even build a window. But how helpful is it to have any of those things if you don’t have a building? Are they important to the finished product? SURE they are. But they do nothing to help you get to your finished goal until you are in the right part of the process. It’s the same with our businesses. SO stinking often we spend our time doing things that we see other people doing, they look cool, but our business isn’t actually really needing or ready for it just yet. I know I’ve done that. I’ve been doing it for the last few days! But what’s funny is we are all in this business and have a common goal: to make money. I know you might really belief in your product, feel passionate about your companies message, all those good things and motivations to have your own business. But at the end of the day if you aren’t making money it’s not a business, it’s a hobby. And my guess is you don’t really want to be spending a lot of time on something that doesn’t give you a return. That really doesn’t make a lot of sense right? And yet people in mlm, especially woman who don’t have a ton of business experience, like I didn’t when I first started, we spend so much time on things that actually don’t matter. Because the end goal is always sales. One of my favorite examples of this is business cards. And I’ll admit it, I made business cards when I first started. I did a few events in my first 6 months and so I felt like “I have to have business cards because then I’ll look more professional and people need a way to contact me and I can write the name of the products they wanted”. But can I tell you a secret? Business cards are the most useless thing ever! I’m serious! I’m not just being dramatic. I think in our parent’s or grandparents generation they were important and valued but now they are useless. No one hangs onto business cards and then actually does something with them. I handed out at least a hundred business cards in those first 6 months. Do you know how many people reached out to me? ZERO. ZERO! Business cards are really just a crap shoot into the dark hoping that 1. They will hold onto and wont just toss it into the trash in a few days and 2. They will someday see it, remember how awesome the product was and then reach out and buy. That’s a whole lotta wishing and hoping and in my opinion, doesn’t sound like a good business practice to be spending my time and money on. Does it to you? Now, I don’t carry around business cards. I don’t waist my time on them. I’ll maybe take them with me when I go to a networking type event, but even then most the time I don’t because I know if someone is actually really interested in working with me than they will remember my name. They’ll pop online for a quick second and find me. Business cards are not sales generating and yet I cannot even tell you how many times I see women in the company I work with talking online about where to get them made, what design is best, glossy or matte, ya de da de da so much time and energy spent on something that DOESNT MATTER. So last night I took a hard look at my to do list and put a star next to things that actually generate sales, short and long term, and then just drew a line through everything else. Some of it I’m sure I’ll do eventually, but I have to build my actual building first. I especially need to do this because I was traded spending my time doing something amazing for mediocre things. And I know a lot of that is because part of me is scared. I’m scared to put myself out there. I’m scared of spending time doing it and it not working. I’m honestly scared of lookin like an idiot. I’m scared people will think I’m a fraud even though I just genuinely want to help people. It’s a lot more comfortable for me to do the other things, but a whole lot less beneficial. I’ve been sacrificing my big dream and picture for something so much smaller. I’ve been limited who I can serve. So today I’m going to do it. I have two more videos to make and I’m going to make at least 1 today. Then tomorrow I’ll make the rest. Then everything, editing, workbook, the whole she-bang can be done by Friday night. It’s going to happen. It won’t be comfortable, but it just doesn’t make any sense to spend time and energy on other things. I think you guys need to do this too. Take an honest look at what you are spending your time doing, what you qualify as “working”. One good way to do this is to write everything you did last week done and then if it is a sales generating to do put a star by it, if it’s not then put a line through it. Now do the same thing with your to do list for this week. I know it might seem a little hard because you see other people doing those non sales things, but guys, it really just isn’t worth your time 90% of the time. You are a business woman now, and you need to treat your time with respect and put a price tag on it. Be serious about what you choose to do or not do, and the bank account will start reflecting that. Well, I have to go finish one of my sales generating projects before my kiddos wake up and the mountain of laundry calls my name. Until next time, bye for now!

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Its been kind of funny for me the last week or two. I have another podcast for military and first responders and with that I do a lot of social media work, so I’m on a lot and I’ve seen a lot of influencers and really just everybody talking about how excited or not excited they are about school starting. Or how one girl makes like 100 PB and Honey sandwiches, bags then and freezes them or this lady has a morning routine chart and this lady is redecorating her work space and is excited about getting into a better work routine. It’s been a little bit funny for me because we are about to move for the Army to Fort Campbell, so across the country drive, so we have pretty much nothing prepared for when we get there and the girls go to school. Haha but all of this talk about preparation got me thinking about the one thing I can control in my life right now and that is my business. Now, by have control of that doesn’t mean that everything always goes according to plan, I’m sure we ALL have had numerous experiences where we are working so hard and stuff just doesn’t go our way. But that’s pretty much the way life works right? Maybe not your life, but that’s my life for sure! BUT something I’ve learned the last 6 months or so is that with my business there is something I can do to take more control. One of the biggest stressors in business, I think especially for women in MLM because we typically don’t have business training, but we are constantly reacting to whats happening in our world and business. We sit down to work and what’s the first thing we do, we check our emails and messages right? But isn’t that interesting. Because now we are going to spend 15 minutes to an hour reacting to what other people are saying. This customer has a question about this, This person had something to say about the last thing you published and now you have an idea to make a video about xyz to answer the question and then you’ll make this graphic to counter the comment made about your last post of Instagram. And at the end of the day you sit back and are proud of yourself for all the things you accomplished today but then in a month you’re trying to figure out why you haven’t made as much progress in your business. But guys. If that’s what you’re doing, and I’m not bashing on you, I’m not putting you down or anything like that. That’s the OPPOSITE of why I’m here. Because that was me. What I just described is the exact scenerio that would happen every day the first time I did an MLM and even at the beginning of the one I’m in now. But if that’s what you are doing you HAVE to stop and take control back, and I’m not just saying Take control back and going to leave you to figure out how. You’ll have to do most of the work but I hate when people make some good point like that and I have this realization that I need to change something but then they end and I have no clue how to fix the problem they just made me see! Urgh It’s so frustrating for me. Anyways, what we need to do is you need to create a work system for yourself. You need to have a plan a system so then that way when you sit down to work every day, or on whatever days you have scheduled for you to work, you know what you are going to be doing. If you need to start at the very basics, which I recommend because making some big giant leap from reacting to everything in your business to being a complete organized OCD boss is just not going to happen over night right? So if we take baby steps though then we can eventually get there where our system is near perfect and things run pretty smoothly right? So first step is to simply make a list of what needs to happen this week. Now, don’t over schedule yourself, but give yourself 3 doable tasks each day, and don’t do ANYTHING else until those are done. As tempting as it would be to check your email, as tempting as it would be to see if anyone commented on your last post DON’T FREAKING DO IT! Get those tasks done. And if while you are doing those things something pops into your head that is making lights flash all over your brain and the emergency bell is ringing, take a breath and write it down to do later, or even another day. There aren’t really any big emergencies, especially when what you are working on is something you’ve previously thought about and decided was an important task to do to help you meet your goals. right? No one will die if you don’t respond to the email you read yesterday. Be the boss, not the radars in your brain. Now, if you want to take it one step farther, you can create more of a system and flow to your business. Instead of just making a do to list based on what pops into your brain as important on planning day, you have certain focuses on certain days and you batch things together so then you can really get your brain juices going and get in the mode. So what I mean by this is you sit down and think, what are the tasks that I need to do for my business. Or what categories can I create that keep on needing to happen. For example, team building or training, personal sales, recruiting, Social Media content, funnels, collaboration work, all that kind of stuff. So you can create this system for yourself where for a few days ALL you are doing is working on personal sales. You are creating sales driven content, you are reaching out to new customers, you are writing emails that you’ll send throughout the next week or month telling them about promotions or reminders about reordering and stocking up, or just your personal testimonial about a certain product. Then after a few days, you’ve gotten a lot of projects done, and some just half way, but you move onto team building. And during these few days you’ve already scheduled out calls with team members so you can check in with them, or see what they need help with, answer questions, you create a whole bunch of training videos that you can send out again, over the next few weeks or month. Instead of making a training video every week and having to get in the zone of what does my team need or even just the training mentality, you get into the mentality and then you stay there for a few days and just create as much as you can. You aren’t reacting to the fact that you have a team and they need to be motivated and trained once a week. You are preparing and organized and know that needs to happen so you are getting it done on your calm, in control hands. The next few days you create everything you need for recruiting and then all your social media content and you take pretty pictures and think of captions and put it in whatever app you want so then it’s all saved, ready to be posted, or even will be posted automatically. But Here’s the THING! You have to stay in each of the zones. If while you are working on recruiting you have this idea of team training you go and write it down on a special piece of paper that you have in a binder that is just for Team Training ideas. Write down enough so you can go back and get back to your train of thought, but don’t sit doesn’t and work out the whole training. Stay in the Recruiting. Other beauty of this you can let your team know you have a system so they will be aware of that and when you ask what they need they will respond and know they can expect an answer when you are in the team building zone. It creates boundaries that really protect everyone. It gives your team security because they know you’ll be working on stuff that will help them and they’ll be taken care of. It most importantly protects you and your families tim. This whole way of working elimates a lot of the quote un quote emergencies. So you aren’t having to take time from your life or your family. If a team member is breaking down and really wants to talk to you, sure, hop on the phone for 45 minutes and help them work it out. But if you have your system in place then people who need help will know they can go on your calendar and schedule a time and then they’ll be taken care of. Another way to structure your system is to be batching like activities. So, you can have a writing day where you map out your trainings, your sales copy, your social media captions. You can have a video and picture day where you get fully ready and all pretty and make 4 videos and get some good pictures. Things like that. Batch it all together so then you aren’t setting things up, then taking them down, then setting another thing up, etc. Honestly guys, if you want to successful at this you HAVE to create systems for your life and business. You can’t just fly by the seat of your pants. All the people you see online and social media that are making 6+ figures DO NOT react to their business. They are in control and dictate what is happening. Opening their emails and responding to people is the last thing they do in the day.   Now, again, I know this is hard. I still struggle with it but the longer I’m in it, working within the system I’ve created, the better things run and the more I’m meeting my goals!   So, if you guys want to get some more help with this, this is something that I talk about in my free 5 day video series 5 Ways To Boost Your MLM NOW. I go more into detail about how to structure your system and even have some printable to help you do it and actually implement it. If you’d like that you can email me at TheMlmMomsPodcast@gmail.com and I’ll send that your way. Again, it’s totally free. It’s just 5 things that have helped my business and I know they’ll help yours. Until next time, bye for now!

Hey Guys! I’m really excited about today’s episode. I’m Michelle Bowler and welcome to The MLM Moms Podcast.   I wanted to first start off by simply saying Thank you. I really appreciate that you are here, following along with my journey, learning with me how to be in direct sales, mlm, net work marketing. Whatever you want to call it, we are doing it without pestering and ruining our relationships.So thank you! Thank you for being here, thank you to everyone who emailed me about The 5 Ways To Boost Your MLM Now, thank you to those who have reached out to me saying you’re enjoying the podcast and it’s helping you. Just thank you thank you thank you. I really appreciate that you are here, spending your time with me.   So today I’m weirdly excited about the topic. I know, it’s weird, but I’ve been working on this principle the last month or so and I’ve just been so impressed with how it’s helped me in business and life and especially in cultivating a better business that I knew I couldn’t wait too long until I shared it with you guys.   The concept is simply this: You’ll get out of your business what you put in. Now, before you roll your eyes and say “no derr Michelle” and click out, stay with me for just a second and let me explain.   I recently heard a fun analogy from Alison Faulkner from The Alison Show and Alisons Brand school. And she was talking about it and said that you need to imagine that you are throwing a bouncing ball against the wall. If you throw that sucker as hard as you can, whats going to happen. It’s probably going to come back flying at you and if you’re lucky it will miss your face. But if you just kind of flop it over, no effort, just eh, go ball. I’ve spent the time picking you up, now you do all the work and entertain me, then the ball is going to bounce pathetically and then sit on the ground.   It’s the same when you are growing and learning new things for your business. Its the same when you buy a course, listen to my podcast, get the 5 Ways to Boost Your MLM Now videos and printable, or just any sort of information intake.   You’re only going to get out what you put in. So if you half way it and just simply listen, then nothings really going to happen for you.   The only problem you could have is while you are listening you have these two thoughts. The first one is you could easily be thinking “I already know that”. “Good job Michelle, that’s cute the way you explained it, but I already know that.” But guys, what if you changed that thought to “If I know that how have I applied it” OR “Why have I not applied it”.  OOOOOOOOOOOO mic drop right! That’s just a whole lot of love from me in the form of Be Honest with yourself. And I only say it like that because that’s what happened to me. I had to be honest with myself, I continue to have to be honest with myself and I’ve seen so much more growth happen since then that I didn’t want to rob you of the opportunity to do the same.   The second that you can easily have when you are intaking information is “This doesn’t apply to me”. Have you ever thought that? I have! I’ll raise my hand. I’ve been in trainings that have even been specifically in MLM and I STILL foolishly ignored it because my product is geared towards women and this person is talking about how they do something with a product for men, or whatever numerous possible differences that have sucked me into that mentality. But what if instead you always changed it to HOW can this apply to me.   There are so many smart, really genius business people out there, and really, there is a ton of amazing free content, and you can get so much help. But I guarantee you that 99.9999% of that content will not be talking about your exact business or situation. So if you want to pout and complain that no one is helping you figure this business thing out because they didn’t give detail on how to work your stuff, “whoa is me because I don’t know how to make such and such happen” then fine you can think that. But that will get you no where. If you can be paying attention to what people are saying about what they’ve done though, and say “HOW can this apply to me” then you’re life will change.   Ok, be constantly trying to figure out: Does this idea add value to my life. Maybe you gotta break somethings down and don’t focus on the whole big master plan, and just figure out the core concepts and then ask How can this apply to me.    I’ve been trying to make these two shifts in my mentality and I’m not only getting SO MUCH more helpful information, but I’m able to view myself honestly and recognize what I’m doing well, and then what I’m being flaky on, what I’m scared of, what I’m letting fear take control of. And THAT helps me apply and take ACTION. And honestly guys, we can talk all day and you can listen to me, and then listen to every other person who has a podcast and intake a ton of brilliant information and feel real good about yourself because you “know” things, and in conversations you can sound so good and savvy, cough cough I know because I did this!, but man, knowledge and ideas are cute, but action is drop dead gorgeous. You want to be gorgeous!   Ahhh that honestly felt really good to say, to share, and to work out and process even more in my brain. So thanks for listening. Hopefully it helps someone out there! Until next time, be Gorgeous!!!

After a tornado of unexpected and expected life events we are finally moved, settled in the active duty army life, and I'm back at this podcast.  Listen for a key change I've made in my business (and already seeing fruits of my labors) and how this podcast will be shifting to better serve you. Learn from the Master at MLM himself check out Steve Larsen's Web Class here so you can do what I'm doing for my business: https://secretmlmhacks.com/register-now?affiliate_id=1056844  If you are interested in working with me at all reach out on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/michelle.bowler.3304 

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