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Hope for Spouses

Author: Kim Pullen

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If you are suffering in the wake of your spouse's adultery or sexual addiction, you will find a supportive community here.

Hope for Spouses is a ministry focused on nurturing and growing in intimacy with God and a safe circle of others. As the betrayed, we chose not to be victims but to own our healing, recovery, and ability to thrive regardless of our spouse's choices.

Kim Pullen is the host of Hope for Spouses. Thriving in a 27-year marriage traumatized by adultery and a four-year separation, Kim shares hope and healing with spouses who feel isolated due to sexual sin in their relationship, but don't know how or where to begin their journey.

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It’s like the world implodes around you.Some are mild, keeping us in a low state of anxiety. Others are sudden and paralyzing. The world calls them panic or anxiety attacks. In the realm of sexual betrayal trauma, we call them emotional triggers, and they can threaten to overwhelm us with fear and the dreaded feeling of no control of our immediate circumstances.In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about what emotional triggers are and where they come from. She also talks about how triggers are a normal part of the recovery process, how we can manage them, and—when we’re ready—how we can embrace them as teachers for our own growth and to promote healing in others.Link to seated breathing exercise: https://vimeo.com/244280100Link to an explanation of EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/Link to an explanations of Neural Linguistic Programming and Time Line Therapy: http://www.cresendajones.com/________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/applyYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
In this Special Edition of the Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen, founder of the Hope for Spouse’s ministry talks directly to friends and family members of betrayed spouses who are looking for ways to help their loved ones navigate one of the most difficult journeys of their life.Whether you’re a parent, sibling, child, brother or sister in Christ, pastor, co-worker, neighbor, or friend of a betrayed spouse, there are practical things you can do to support your loved one even if you’ve never experienced sexual betrayal yourself.In this episode you’ll learn what your betrayed friend is experiencing and feeling in the wake of the disclosure, exactly what they need to do to start and successfully complete their recovery process, and what they need—and don’t need—from you. Kim will also leave you with some resources you can use to get yourself educated on the betrayal recovery process.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/applyYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
#48: How to Embrace the Pain of Sexual Betrayal to Find HealingThe majority of Western media and our modern culture teach that pain is to be avoided at all costs. Take a pill, binge on entertainment, or work-work-work. Anything to avoid pain or thinking about pain.As betrayed spouses, we can also get caught up in the mindset that the pain of our spouse’s adultery or addiction is something we must either avoid or control. Like the men and women of the scriptures, many of today’s churches erroneously assert that blessings or lack thereof are inextricably linked to God’s approval or disapproval of our lives.But what if that’s not how God views pain at all? What if we have it all wrong?In this episode of the Hope for Spouse’s Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about how spouses who have chosen to follow Jesus must change how they view the pain of their partner’s sexual betrayal and why the world thinks that’s crazy. She’ll also discuss the three biblical “mindshifts” we need in order to heal and to understand pain’s purposeful place in our lives.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/callYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Are your thoughts out of control since you found out about your spouse’s infidelity or sexual addiction? Do you feel like you are slowly losing your mind? Do you have a hard time controlling your thoughts about where your spouse is, who they’re with, or what they’re doing?In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares about her own journey to take captive her thoughts in the wake of her separation from a sexually addicted spouse. Kim will also discuss the root of out-of-control thinking, how you can demolish mental strongholds with deliberate thinking patterns, and how you can fill your mind with the right thoughts from God’s Word to give you the peace that passes understanding regardless of the choices your spouse makes.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/callYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Have you been waiting weeks, months, or years for something in your broken marriage to change?Have you cried out to God only to feel like your prayers are stopping at the ceiling?Are you losing faith, getting sicker in heart, sicker physically, depressed or embittered waiting for God to show up in your addicted or adulterous spouse’s life?In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen will share about how change works, why we have to look to God and ourselves for real change in our marriage, and how we can draw a line in the sand in order to experience personal victory regardless of the choices our spouse makes.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/callYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Has your spouse rejected you for another? Do they turn to porn instead of seeking intimacy with you? Have they abandoned you emotionally or left your marriage all together?Feelings of rejection and abandonment can paralyze us or make us so desperate to hold onto our spouse that we compromise our convictions or values to preserve our marriage. After a time, we don’t recognize ourselves anymore.In this episode of the Hope for Spouses, Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen discusses the truth behind both our spouses’ accusations that we aren’t good enough, our feelings of inadequacy, our terror of abandonment, and how we can turn to God to comfort us and complete us in ways our spouse was never equipped to.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/callYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Do you ever find yourself incessantly wondering, “Why did my spouse betray me?” or “Why can’t they stop watching porn?”Sometimes the thoughts drive us into an obsession, make us doubt our own worth, or cause us to question if God really cares or even exists.In this episode of the Lunchtime Live, Hope for Spouses creator Kim Pullen discusses what we CAN and what we CAN’T understand when it comes to our spouse’s addiction, our own recovery, and our what God is doing in both.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/callYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
It starts with just a thought, a whisper in our mind, “What if my spouse is…? Maybe if I…” And then we’re off to the races, tracking our spouse’s every call, text, or private message and even stalking them via their phone’s GPS.The crazy thing is, even after we find the “evidence”, it’ll never be enough. Too often our sinful nature fuels a self-destructive compulsion to discover things or see things that will only hurt us more, things we can never forget.In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen will talk about why we probably already have all the “evidence” we need of our spouse’s infidelity or addiction, why we may not have recognized it as evidence before, and what our biblical response should be now that you have “proof” of their unfaithfulness.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/callYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
If you’ve spent the last six weeks, six months or six years letting your feelings guide your recovery and you’re wondering why things aren’t getting any better, maybe your guide is off.In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim will discuss how our emotions can be an ally or an enemy in our pursuit of healing from our spouse’s sexual betrayal. She’ll also talk about our culture’s dangerous worship of emotions, God’s purpose for emotions, and how we can use the Scriptures to guide us through the thorny path of our feelings and move us toward hope and healing.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/applyYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
"Why can’t my spouse just stop watching porn, stop looking at women, or stop meeting or being with their affair partner?""Is the trauma my spouse's experienced from childhood just an excuse for them to keep sinning?""How important is it to my husband's recovery for me to work on my own healing?"Join us for this special episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live when host Kim Pullen will be joined by Dr. Marcus De Carvalho, a specialist in addiction medicine and psychiatry and author of "Untangling Addiction: A Guide to Recovery Through Jesus-Style Discipleship." Dr. De Carvalho approaches addiction by addressing the biological, social, psychological, and spiritual needs of each of his patients and prescribes deep, vulnerable, spiritually-based relationships as a necessity for recovery.Kim and Dr. De Carvalho will discuss the wise role a godly wife can take in her husband's recovery from sexual addiction.________________To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/callYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
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Cristal Hughes

Just what I needed to hear today. Great message!

Jun 5th
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