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Hope for Spouses

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If you are suffering in the wake of your spouse's adultery or sexual addiction, you will find a supportive community here.

Hope for Spouses is a ministry focused on nurturing and growing in intimacy with God and a safe circle of others. As the betrayed, we chose not to be victims but to own our healing, recovery, and ability to thrive regardless of our spouse's choices.

Kim Pullen is the host of Hope for Spouses. Thriving in a 27-year marriage traumatized by adultery and a four-year separation, Kim shares hope and healing with spouses who feel isolated due to sexual sin in their relationship, but don't know how or where to begin their journey.
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#73: Transforming Isolation to Intimacy with God and Safe Others The current state of our world in the wake of Covid-19 is simply a physical manifestation of what most of us live in everyday—emotional isolation. But that was never God’s plan for us. He designed us to live in a constant state of emotional and spiritual intimacy with Him and a circle of safe others. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares how we can move from isolation into intimacy whether we are in a global state of emergency or in a local state of normalcy. Using the scriptures, Kim will discuss the three ways we can be deliberate and purposeful in transforming our relationships with God, safe others, and even ourselves into an intimacy that transcends any and all circumstances. ____________________ YouVersion App https://www.youversion.com/the-bible-app/ Beginning Yoga Class #1 https://youtu.be/i6eKyjA8ER4 Beginning Yoga Class #2 https://youtu.be/IMMVvYP2_6k Beginning Yoga Class #3 https://youtu.be/8Z7Y5HanMC8 Pilates Mat with Russ and Kim Pullen Session #1 (20 minutes) https://vimeo.com/398123661 Session #2 (20 minutes) https://vimeo.com/398149907 ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
It’s hard enough when you—a mature adult—have to deal with the trauma associated with your spouse’s sexual betrayal. But how does a broken wife help her children navigate their own recovery journey? In this special episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim welcomes Natalie Ludewig, a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist who also is also on her own recovery journey from sexual betrayal. Natalie and Kim discuss the challenges and complications of personal healing while helping your children work through the conflict and/or separation of their parents. They’ll also discuss the professional and practical strategies you can use to help your kids start to heal from their own trauma, and Natalie will answer some specific questions posed by Hope for Spouses viewers. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
The Proverbs 31 woman is heralded in Christianity as the epitome of womanhood. But how in the world do we live up to such a standard especially when we’re living with an unfaithful or sexually addicted spouse? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim addresses some of the inaccuracies about our understanding of the Proverbs 31 woman and how to read this conclusion to the book of Proverbs in its context. Kim also addresses the key to unlocking the power behind this inspiring passage and how a betrayed wife dealing with trauma, anger, shame, and frustration can choose to walk in strength and dignity regardless of her spouse’s choice to change. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com ____________________
Your “gut” tells you that everything you’ve done up to this point in your recovery from your spouse’s sexual betrayal is helpful, but you’re missing…something. That something is an intimacy with God you can’t even imagine. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares about how intimacy with God—the key to healing, peace, and security—is well within our reach if we know how and where to look. Kim will define biblical intimacy with God, and she’ll share why it’s imperative for healing. She’ll also discuss the obstacles that keep us from intimacy and practical principles we can apply today to start a lifelong journey with the most faithful and devoted of all “husbands”—God himself. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com ____________________ Book Recommendations: 7 Desires: Looking Past What Separates Us to Learn What Connects Us by Mark Laaser https://amzn.to/2TTYvWj When God is Silent: The Problem of Human Suffering by Douglas Jacoby https://amzn.to/2Q2NHnA Misreading Scripture Through Western Eyes https://amzn.to/2xqfVSB A Quick Overview of the Bible by Douglas Jacoby https://amzn.to/2vHi8IW Be Still, My Soul: A Practical Guide to a Deeper Relationship with God by Sam Laing https://ipibooks.ecwid.com/Be-Still-My-Soul-p64183154 Getting the Most from the Bible: A Guide to In-Depth Study by G. Steve Kinnard https://ipibooks.ecwid.com/Getting-the-Most-From-the-Bible-2nd-Ed-p64183266 **Scriptures Cited Romans 3:23 Ps 40:4, 146:3 Luke 13:10-16 Mark 10:14-16 Matthew 5:37 Revelations 3:15-16 1 Corinthians 11:1 Acts 2-7 Galatians 6:9 2 Peter 3:9 John 14:26 2 Corinthians 1:21-22 Ephesians 1:14 Hebrews 4:12-13 2 Timothy 3:16-17 Jeremiah 29:11 – Read the whole chapter in context Acts 17:11-12 – Bereans John 12:48 Philippians 2:5-11 Colossians 3:1-2 John 10:3-5 Mark 10:42-45 James 5:16 Galatians 6:6
Have you ever sat across from a couple with a wife raving like a lunatic, accusing her spouse of adultery or porn addiction, while her husband appears the epitome of cool, steely composure? For every accusation of hers, he has the perfect, logical comeback. She seems like she’s the one in sin (fits of rage, anyone?), but something nags at your belly and you just can’t seem to put your finger on the root of the problem? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’, Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about what’s really going on under the surface of this dysfunctional relationship and the real reason why many betrayed spouses—especially wives—come across like emotional basket cases while their unfaithful and unrepentant partner appears the victim of a deranged, delusional wife. Kim will also talk about how to biblically discern truth from lies, when to speak, what to speak, and when to be silent, and the best way you can help your friends, family members, or congregants in the midst of the devastation of sexual sin and betrayal. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com ____________________ Cited Scripture 1 Kings 3:16-28 1 Samuel 16:7 Romans 3:23 Deuteronomy 5:9 Romans 1:25 John 3:19-20 Matthew 5:27-28 Romans 12:2 2 Cor 6:16-17:1 Ephesians 5:5 Galatians 5:19-21 Ephesians 5:25-27 1 John 3:18 John 3:21 Proverbs 28:26, 24:6 Acts 26:20 2 Cor 7:10-11 Isaiah 42:3 1 Samuel 16:7 John 5:1-15, 8:1-11, 9:1-39 Please don't use: 1 Cor 7:1-5 Ephesians 5:22-24 1 Peter 3:1-6 Luke 9:23 Hebrews 13:4 Worthy of Her Trust by Steven Arterburn https://amzn.to/2Ij4qOY The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick https://amzn.to/2Tku10n Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Dr. Mark Laaser http://amzn.to/2mZEYGl Untangling Addiction by Dr. Marcus DeCarvalho https://discipleship.org/download-untangling-addiction/
So your spouse has been unfaithful either through adultery or porn, and you just can’t seem to heal with them in the home. But you’re a Christian and everybody tells you that God hates separation. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim plunges deep into the Scriptures and address exactly how God feels about a betrayal separation. But because our culture (the West) is so different from the culture of the Bible (the East), we need to find our answers through an extensive, contextual study of the Bible. To do that, Kim will talk about God’s view of women and marriage, how Jesus treated women, and what the New Testament says about marriage which is just one of our many one-another relationships. We’ll also talk about how to take a contextual view of the scriptures where we’ll learn how to be “silent” (and obedient) where the Bible speaks, and understand the freedom God gives us to speak (and take biblical action) where the Bible is silent. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com ____________________ Scripture References and Links • Misreading the Bible through Western Eyes: https://amzn.to/38HqmPj • BEMA podcast – BEMAdiscipleship.com CONTEXTUAL VIEW - what God infers, HIS purpose and intention for marriage Ephesians 5 Hebrews 13:4 Gen 2-3 Song of Solomon (Songs) 1 Corinthians 7 1. ONE ANOTHER RELATIONSHIPS - God’s Standard for ALL our relationships in the Body (including marriage) John 13:34-35 - They will know you are my disciples by how you love one another Rom 12:10 - Be devoted to one another, honor one another above yourselves. 1 Corinthians 1:10 - Be perfectly united in mind and thought. Galatians 5:13 - Serve one another in love 1 Thessalonians 5:11 – Encourage one another, build one another up Hebrews 10:24 – Spur each other to love and good deeds 1 John 1:7 – Have fellowship as we walk in the light 1 John 4:11 – Have AGAPE love for one another James 5:16 – Confess your sins to each other 1 Thessalonians 5:13 – Love at peace with each other Colossians 3:9 – Do not lie to each other (Prov 12:22 - Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord) Ephesians 5:21 – Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. [Ephesians 5:22 – Submitting to husband as to the Lord, contextually, God doesn’t condone pornography or adultery – Matthew 5:27-28] Colossians 3:12-13 – Bear with one another Matthew 6:14-15 - Forgive one another 1 Peter 4:8 – Love (agape) each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins Complete List of One Another scriptures https://www.truthaccordingtoscripture.com/documents/bible-study/all-the-one-anothers.php#.Xk1s-U9KhR0 Mt 5:37, 2 Timothy 2:2 - Commanded to be trustworthy/keep our word/promises Never commanded to trust in people. Psalm 41:9 - David warned be careful who we trust. John 2:24 - Jesus limited who he entrusted himself to Mt 7:6 - told us to be careful to whom we entrust what is valuable to us. 2. JESUS’ RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN Mary, his mother - John 2, 19:25-27 Peter’s Mother-in-Law – Matt 5:35-43 Widow of Nain – Luke 7:11-17 The Crippled Woman – Luke 13:10-17 Martha sister of Lazarus – John 11 Mary, sister of Lazarus, who anointed him - John 12:1-8 Women who supported him including Salome, Susanna and James’ Mother - Mark 15:40-41, Luke 8:2-3 Samaritan Woman - John 4:1-26,39-42 Bleeding Woman - Mark 5:25-34 Women at the cross/tomb - Joanna, Mary the wife of Cleopas and others – Luke 24:1-10 Sinful Woman - Luke 7:36-50 Woman Caught in Adultery - John 8:1-11 Women on Golgotha road - Lk 23:28 Widow Giving Her Offering – Mark 12:41-44 Syrophoencian Woman – Matthew 15:21-28 Mary Magdalen first person to see him risen - Mk 16:9 3. GOD’S ROLE AS A PROTECTOR AND DEFENDER God defends the weak and fatherless (Ps 82:3) The Lord will protect the needy them from those who malign them (Psalm 12:5) Rescues and delivers the weak and the needy from the wicked (Psalm 82:3-4). We take refuge in the shadow of God’s “wings” until the disaster passes (Psalm 57:1) God protects us from the violent, who scheme against us (Psalm 140:4) God has a shelter/fortress/refuge where we are safe and can rest (Psalm 90:1-4). 1 Cor 6:12-13, 10:23 – everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial or constructive. Philippians 1:9-10 – discern what is best 2 Peter 1:3 – the Scriptures give us everything we need for life and godliness. Take a contextual View of Sexual Purity in Marriage Eph 5:3-7 2 Tim 3:1-11 1 Peter 3:1-6 1 Cor 7:1-5 2 Peter 3:8 - God’s timetable Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 - there is a time for everything Luke 11:24-26 – Fill the vacuum of your mind and life with God’s Word or the world will fill it. Romans 12:2 - Transforming our mind takes deliberate action
It’s so easy to get sucked into an argument with your addicted or unfaithful spouse about what each of US wants. The problem is we don't regularly consider what God wants and expects from us when our marriage is broken. We may turn to books, articles, devotionals, websites, pastors, or teachers, and neglect the primary source for our lives—the Bible. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen addresses a topic that doesn’t get talked about enough—how to recognize when we are unconsciously pushing our own agenda in a broken marriage, changing how we read the scriptures, how to submit to God first so we can see our spouse, ourselves, and our marriage through His eyes, and how to practically maintain that standard even when our unrepentant partner refuses to change. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopef... For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
When you have a spouse who has been unfaithful or is addicted to porn, Valentine’s Day is one of the most challenging holidays to navigate. Our marriage is not what we envisioned it would be! We wanted a knight; we got neglect. We wanted a hero; we got emotional hell. But Biblical love has nothing to do with roses, red hearts, and chocolates. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim talks about how we can prepare ourselves to face down the marketing onslaught that red February brings, learn the biblical definition of love in its four forms—agape, phileo, storge, and eros—and choose how to express that love even to an unrepentant spouse. Kim will also offer practical strategies to those who are married, separated, or divorced so you don’t have to avoid every mall or department store for the next month, but instead, turn February into a month to give and receive love the best way of all—God’s way. Agape Verses - https://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Agape-Love Phileo Study - https://www.preceptaustin.org/love-phileo ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Classic carnival rides have a few things in common with a marriage broken by sexual sin—they often leave us staggering, scared, or sick to our stomach. One other thing they have in common is we can simply refuse to ride. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen compares some classic carnival rides we may have experienced as children to the adult trauma spouses of sexual addicts and adulterers experience every day. She’ll also discuss the misuse and abuse of Ephesians 5, God’s perfect design for the partnership of marriage, and how betrayed partners can choose to finally get healthy. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Are you exasperated with your addicted or adulterous spouse because they constantly turn the tables on you? Do you always feel like you are playing a cat and mouse game with them? Are you frustrated because you can’t seem to stop yourself from falling into the same verbal traps? This is called the Insanity Loop, and it’s where a betrayed spouse finds themselves stuck in repetitive patterns with a sexual addict. It’s kinda like being on a hamster wheel or in a plane in a perpetual holding pattern. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the insanity loop, the three things that keep us trapped in its vacuum-like cycle, and how you can empower yourself to finally get off and stay off. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Relationships are build on trust. Trust is built when there is honesty, integrity, and truth between two people. Without truth, a relationship disintegrates. This is exactly why truth in all our relationships is imperative. If you are in a marriage shattered by sexual betrayal, you know exactly what I’m talking about. Any betrayed spouse in their right mind would rather know the truth about their spouse’s sexual sin than continue to be lied to for months or years. Yes, truth hurts, but it is a requirement for marriage as God intended. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen uses the scriptures to define truth in relationships, share five reasons why truth is ALWAYS the right choice, and explains HOW we tell the truth is equally important as speaking it. Kim will also share some practical tips how we can respond to other people telling us the truth even when it hurts. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
We may be able to see how isolation fed or feeds our spouse’s addiction to porn or adultery and ultimately devastated our marriage, but did you know that isolation can be just as a seductive and destructive to YOUR healing? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about why isolation is both irresistible and lethal when trying to recover from a spouse’s sexual betrayal. Kim also talks about why it’s so hard to escape isolation and the vital recovery tool God provides that is absolutely necessary for getting healthy and living a life with peace and joy. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
In the wake of our spouse’s sexual betrayal, we can believe the Bible has answers but have no idea where to start or how to apply what we’re reading. We can go to church but still feel lost, isolated, and alone. We can also feel like we’re at the end of our rope, a ship adrift, unmoored and untethered to anything that feels safe. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim talks about the first three steps we have to take in order to not just start the recovery process, but actually move forward into genuine healing from the inside out. We’ll talk about owning our lostness, (really) turning to God, and what it means to change how we think. If you are just beginning your journey or you feel stuck, tune in. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Have you been in and out of churches your whole life but are too embarrassed to admit you have no clue how to use the Scriptures to heal from sexual betrayal? Or maybe you are just starting your healing journey and your spiritual journey at the same time and you don’t have a clue where to start. Either way, join Kim Pullen for this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live as she discusses the deeper reasons why we don’t turn to the Scriptures for guidance as we try to heal, why we should, and exactly how we can get started. Kim will also give you some practical steps you can take to start applying the Bible to your life to find peace on the inside even when your external life feels like a raging storm ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Have you ever felt enslaved to thoughts of past trauma that keep you stuck and resistant to healing? In this episode of the Hope for Spouse's Lunchtime Live, Cresenda Jones joins Kim Pullen and discusses how we can apply Neural Linguistic Programing (NLP) and Time Line Therapy to betrayal trauma recovery. Cresenda is a Master NLP Coach and author of "Spiritual Maturity: God's Will for Emotional Health and Healing." Learn the benefits of this very powerful tool and how you can add it to your recovery toolbox! Contact Cresenda at 267.261.5487 for a free consultation. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
In your recovery, when you find yourself dropping your boundaries prematurely, reacting in anger, or getting caught back up in “the dance” with your unrepentant, sexually addicted spouse, the shame can be overwhelming. “Why did I blow it again? What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just do this right?” In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen will talk about how making mistakes in the betrayal recovery process—“three steps forward, two steps back”—is actually good for us. Kim will discuss how stumbling through the healing journey exposes our hidden motives, forces us to stop trying to prove our worth to others, teaches us to rely on God and not ourselves, and helps us to wisely and biblically extend grace to ourselves and to others. ________________ To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Have you been praying for your unrepentant sexually addicted spouse for months or years and instead of changing, they’re more selfish, abusive, and uncaring of how much they’re hurting you? If so, you may be asking yourself, “Why isn’t God changing my spouse? Doesn’t see what I’m going through? Can’t he hear me crying out? Does he even care?” Have you considered you might be asking the wrong questions? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about why the question (“Why isn’t God changing my spouse?”) has left you paralyzed, confused, and doubting God’s love. She’ll also share the “better” and the “best” questions you should be asking yourself to see real transformation in your life…and possibly in your marriage. ________________ To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
What are your motives for staying in a marriage marred by sexual betrayal? Is it to safe your marriage, to keep your family together, or to protect your family’s reputation? If you’re separated, what are your motives for setting boundaries, saying “no” to an unrepentant, sexually addicted spouse, or seeking your own recovery? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen discusses why some motives that can feel right in the moment can actually lead us down a road with more hardship and pain. Kim will also discuss the only motive for those recovering from either betrayal or addiction that ultimately benefits everyone because of its eternal consequences. ________________ To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
When you find out about your spouse’s sexual betrayal, the war inside your home and inside yourself never seems to end. Sure, there may be momentary truces where life almost feels normal. Then, it happens again. And again--the triggers, the chaos, and the trauma. You’re fighting a battle, but it feels like you’re losing ground every day. Did you ever think you might be fighting the wrong battle or the wrong enemy? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the only battles we can ever win following sexual betrayal—the battle in our head and the battle in our heart. Kim shares from her own recovery and from the scriptures how betrayed spouses can master their thoughts and tame their emotions to win the only battle that matters, and ultimately change the outcome of their life. ________________ To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Adultery, addiction, mental health, illness, abuse, lack of spirituality are just a few reasons there may be pain and struggle in our marriage. How we choose to look at our pain—particularly emotional pain—our purpose, and this elusive thing called “peace” makes all the difference in the world. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen compares God’s view and the world’s view of these three areas. Using scripture, she reveals God’s plan for the pain in our lives, how our purpose is directly linked to our identity, and why peace eludes us when we run after it. ________________ To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/apply You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
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Cristal Hughes

Just what I needed to hear today. Great message!

Jun 5th
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