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Hope for Spouses

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If you are suffering in the wake of your spouse's adultery or sexual addiction, you will find a supportive community here.

Hope for Spouses is a ministry focused on nurturing and growing in intimacy with God and a safe circle of others. As the betrayed, we chose not to be victims but to own our healing, recovery, and ability to thrive regardless of our spouse's choices.

Kim Pullen is the host of Hope for Spouses. Thriving in a 27-year marriage traumatized by adultery and a four-year separation, Kim shares hope and healing with spouses who feel isolated due to sexual sin in their relationship, but don't know how or where to begin their journey.
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When a marriage shattered by adultery or sexual addiction, too often the wife retreats into one of three roles: the sleuth, the paralytic, and the captive. The sleuth is obsessed over keeping track of her unfaithful partner’s every move. The paralytic is paralyzed by the fear of rejection, abandonment, and/or financial uncertainty. The captive is stuck in separation limbo with a faith that waxes and wanes like the tides.In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen discusses these three roles and the fourth role we must choose, that of Faithful Warrior. Kim will look at ten famous women warriors both outside and inside the Bible and offer four keys to being a righteous and courageous heroine in the most important story of all—God’s story.____________________Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclassTo get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/callYou can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com 
Your unfaithful, unrepentant spouse doesn’t understand the concept of “boundaries” and consistently attempts to control, isolate, or manipulate you so you don’t know where you end and they begin. But in a desperate attempt to “save” a marriage, can a betrayed spouse violate their unfaithful partner’s boundaries as well? And if so, is it justified? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen addresses the necessity of boundaries in response to sexual betrayal, what those boundaries look like from a biblical perspective, and how to not let fear lead you into sin. She’ll also talk about what violating other’s boundaries looks like, and how to invite healthy people into your “personal space” so you can start healing from marital betrayal and fulfill God’s ultimate purpose for your life. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
There’s an unspoken belief in the West about brokenness. Our culture preaches if we’re “broken,” we have no value or worth. Because we’re terrified of such a stigma, we tend to live in denial and say things like, “I’m not broken; I’m growing.” In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime live, Kim Pullen explores the scriptures to see how counter-cultural God is in this area of brokenness. We’ll see how can view ourselves as God does as well as revealing the blessings that come from admitting our brokenness and the beauty that follows in us in the wake of God’s favor. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Have you become so obsessed about catching your spouse in a lie or a sin that your health, concentration, family relationships, and productivity are suffering?Have you become so distracted with your spouse that you are neglecting your own healing? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim shares 25 biblical reasons why the betrayed spouse of an unrepentant sexual addict or serial adulterer can leave her husband and her marriage in God’s hands and move on toward healing herself from the trauma associated with sexual sin. ____________________ 25 Biblical Reasons – Scripture References1.  Jeremiah 23:23-242.  Job 34:21-223.  Luke 8:174.  Psalm 90:85.  Hebrews 4:136.  Luke 12:37.  Isaiah 59:28.  Psalm 66:189.  Galatians 6:7-810. Proverbs 19:511. Hebrews 13:412. Proverbs 14:1213. Romans 2:13, 1614. Proverbs 28:1315. Matthew 12:3616. Jeremiah 17:1017. Matthew 7:618. Romans 1:1819. Psalm 2:1, 4-520. Romans 8:5-821. 1 Corinthians 4:522. 1 Timothy 5:2423. Revelations 3:1924. 1 Timothy 2:3-425. Luke 13:1-5 Additional Scriptures:Mark 12:30-31Matthew 7:21-23James 1:19Psalm 46:10Romans 3:23_________________  Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Did you know the sins of your unfaithful spouse were also sins of many biblical characters? Some critics discredit Scripture by claiming it as a work of men conspiring (over 1500 years) to promote the worship of a historical figure, namely Jesus. But the very fact the Bible so flagrantly exposes the shameful underbelly of the vast majority of its most beloved heroes proves the contrary. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen examines leaders like King Saul, Sampson, and Judas, and King David, Peter, and Paul, their sinful choices, and the consequences of those choices. From these examples, we can learn how to distinguish truth from lies and recognize repentance in our sexually addicted or unfaithful spouse so we can make informed, reasoned decisions about our staying, leaving, healing, and recovery in the wake of sexual betrayal. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Are you frustrated and confused because you were sure God told you to stay with your unfaithful and unrepentant spouse, but it’s been months or years and there’s still no change? Are you a believer having a hard time discerning the different “voices” in your head or “signs” in your life about what to do in your broken marriage? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen tackles the tough topic of how a betrayed spouse can discern, filter, and follow or discard the ambiguous thoughts, feelings, or coincidental circumstances we find ourselves in. She will also present three questions we can use to “test the spirits” to determine whether we are being compelled by our feelings or by our Father. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com____________________
Are you frustrated because nothing you say gets through to your sexually addicted spouse? Are you heartsick with disappointment because they seem incapable of compassion or emotional support? Are you growing bitter over their inability to just tell you the truth? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares about what is probably going on inside the heart and mind of your unrepentant spouse and what you can realistically expect and not expect from them. Kim will also talk about the glory and power of personal, biblical brokenness and why it’s the key to real healing, transformation, and lasting peace. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
There is a myth perpetuated by our western culture that we can find a quick and simple solution to everything, even the ridiculously difficult challenge of recovering from our spouse’s sexual betrayal. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen dispels the mythical magic bullet and shares the realities a betrayed spouse has to face, how we can change our thinking, and the two things we absolutely need to start down the road to real healing and transformation. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
“Sometimes I feel like a fool.” If that thought has ever passed through your mind in the wake of our spouse’s sexual betrayal, you’re not alone. Jesus challenged his followers to be as “shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves.” How do we find that balance in a marriage broken by sexual sin? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares five signs of naivete and why being naïve with a sex addict or adulterer can be so dangerous. She also shares how we can use God’s word to learn how to be wise so we can maintain our innocence in an evil world without compromising God’s standard for righteousness. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
You’ve felt it—that overwhelming compulsion to call, text, or track your spouse’s device to see where they are, where they’ve been, or who they’ve been talking to. The urge to police our unrepentant sexually addicted or unfaithful spouse can become so obsessive, our own mental, emotional and physical health can be put in jeopardy. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen addresses the motivations behind “keeping tabs” on our betraying partner, the subsequent triggers we unwittingly invite into our already traumatized lives, and how our obsessiveness can actual cripple our personal recovery efforts. Kim will also talk about the reasons we often get swept up into unhealthy patterns in our dysfunctional marriage and how to practically turn it around by choosing to view our lives through the eyes of Scripture. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
As if our spouse’s betrayal were not enough, now we have to suffer along with the world through social isolation, fear, and the possible death of loved ones. It can make a person start doubting God or asking the question: How good can God be when I—and so many other people—are in so much pain? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim shares her own story of how she wrestled with God’s goodness through several of life’s tragedies and disappointments. She’ll also discuss how we can stop viewing our life through the lens of the world and use the scriptures to view it like God, and how we can use our present sufferings as a means to transform our character and find the peace that only God can give. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
#73: Transforming Isolation to Intimacy with God and Safe Others The current state of our world in the wake of Covid-19 is simply a physical manifestation of what most of us live in everyday—emotional isolation. But that was never God’s plan for us. He designed us to live in a constant state of emotional and spiritual intimacy with Him and a circle of safe others. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares how we can move from isolation into intimacy whether we are in a global state of emergency or in a local state of normalcy. Using the scriptures, Kim will discuss the three ways we can be deliberate and purposeful in transforming our relationships with God, safe others, and even ourselves into an intimacy that transcends any and all circumstances. ____________________ YouVersion App https://www.youversion.com/the-bible-app/ Beginning Yoga Class #1 https://youtu.be/i6eKyjA8ER4 Beginning Yoga Class #2 https://youtu.be/IMMVvYP2_6k Beginning Yoga Class #3 https://youtu.be/8Z7Y5HanMC8 Pilates Mat with Russ and Kim Pullen Session #1 (20 minutes) https://vimeo.com/398123661 Session #2 (20 minutes) https://vimeo.com/398149907 ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
It’s hard enough when you—a mature adult—have to deal with the trauma associated with your spouse’s sexual betrayal. But how does a broken wife help her children navigate their own recovery journey? In this special episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim welcomes Natalie Ludewig, a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist who also is also on her own recovery journey from sexual betrayal. Natalie and Kim discuss the challenges and complications of personal healing while helping your children work through the conflict and/or separation of their parents. They’ll also discuss the professional and practical strategies you can use to help your kids start to heal from their own trauma, and Natalie will answer some specific questions posed by Hope for Spouses viewers. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
The Proverbs 31 woman is heralded in Christianity as the epitome of womanhood. But how in the world do we live up to such a standard especially when we’re living with an unfaithful or sexually addicted spouse? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim addresses some of the inaccuracies about our understanding of the Proverbs 31 woman and how to read this conclusion to the book of Proverbs in its context. Kim also addresses the key to unlocking the power behind this inspiring passage and how a betrayed wife dealing with trauma, anger, shame, and frustration can choose to walk in strength and dignity regardless of her spouse’s choice to change. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com ____________________
Your “gut” tells you that everything you’ve done up to this point in your recovery from your spouse’s sexual betrayal is helpful, but you’re missing…something. That something is an intimacy with God you can’t even imagine. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares about how intimacy with God—the key to healing, peace, and security—is well within our reach if we know how and where to look. Kim will define biblical intimacy with God, and she’ll share why it’s imperative for healing. She’ll also discuss the obstacles that keep us from intimacy and practical principles we can apply today to start a lifelong journey with the most faithful and devoted of all “husbands”—God himself. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com ____________________ Book Recommendations: 7 Desires: Looking Past What Separates Us to Learn What Connects Us by Mark Laaser https://amzn.to/2TTYvWj When God is Silent: The Problem of Human Suffering by Douglas Jacoby https://amzn.to/2Q2NHnA Misreading Scripture Through Western Eyes https://amzn.to/2xqfVSB A Quick Overview of the Bible by Douglas Jacoby https://amzn.to/2vHi8IW Be Still, My Soul: A Practical Guide to a Deeper Relationship with God by Sam Laing https://ipibooks.ecwid.com/Be-Still-My-Soul-p64183154 Getting the Most from the Bible: A Guide to In-Depth Study by G. Steve Kinnard https://ipibooks.ecwid.com/Getting-the-Most-From-the-Bible-2nd-Ed-p64183266 **Scriptures Cited Romans 3:23 Ps 40:4, 146:3 Luke 13:10-16 Mark 10:14-16 Matthew 5:37 Revelations 3:15-16 1 Corinthians 11:1 Acts 2-7 Galatians 6:9 2 Peter 3:9 John 14:26 2 Corinthians 1:21-22 Ephesians 1:14 Hebrews 4:12-13 2 Timothy 3:16-17 Jeremiah 29:11 – Read the whole chapter in context Acts 17:11-12 – Bereans John 12:48 Philippians 2:5-11 Colossians 3:1-2 John 10:3-5 Mark 10:42-45 James 5:16 Galatians 6:6
Have you ever sat across from a couple with a wife raving like a lunatic, accusing her spouse of adultery or porn addiction, while her husband appears the epitome of cool, steely composure? For every accusation of hers, he has the perfect, logical comeback. She seems like she’s the one in sin (fits of rage, anyone?), but something nags at your belly and you just can’t seem to put your finger on the root of the problem? In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’, Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about what’s really going on under the surface of this dysfunctional relationship and the real reason why many betrayed spouses—especially wives—come across like emotional basket cases while their unfaithful and unrepentant partner appears the victim of a deranged, delusional wife. Kim will also talk about how to biblically discern truth from lies, when to speak, what to speak, and when to be silent, and the best way you can help your friends, family members, or congregants in the midst of the devastation of sexual sin and betrayal. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com ____________________ Cited Scripture 1 Kings 3:16-28 1 Samuel 16:7 Romans 3:23 Deuteronomy 5:9 Romans 1:25 John 3:19-20 Matthew 5:27-28 Romans 12:2 2 Cor 6:16-17:1 Ephesians 5:5 Galatians 5:19-21 Ephesians 5:25-27 1 John 3:18 John 3:21 Proverbs 28:26, 24:6 Acts 26:20 2 Cor 7:10-11 Isaiah 42:3 1 Samuel 16:7 John 5:1-15, 8:1-11, 9:1-39 Please don't use: 1 Cor 7:1-5 Ephesians 5:22-24 1 Peter 3:1-6 Luke 9:23 Hebrews 13:4 Worthy of Her Trust by Steven Arterburn https://amzn.to/2Ij4qOY The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick https://amzn.to/2Tku10n Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Dr. Mark Laaser http://amzn.to/2mZEYGl Untangling Addiction by Dr. Marcus DeCarvalho https://discipleship.org/download-untangling-addiction/
So your spouse has been unfaithful either through adultery or porn, and you just can’t seem to heal with them in the home. But you’re a Christian and everybody tells you that God hates separation. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim plunges deep into the Scriptures and address exactly how God feels about a betrayal separation. But because our culture (the West) is so different from the culture of the Bible (the East), we need to find our answers through an extensive, contextual study of the Bible. To do that, Kim will talk about God’s view of women and marriage, how Jesus treated women, and what the New Testament says about marriage which is just one of our many one-another relationships. We’ll also talk about how to take a contextual view of the scriptures where we’ll learn how to be “silent” (and obedient) where the Bible speaks, and understand the freedom God gives us to speak (and take biblical action) where the Bible is silent. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com ____________________ Scripture References and Links • Misreading the Bible through Western Eyes: https://amzn.to/38HqmPj • BEMA podcast – BEMAdiscipleship.com CONTEXTUAL VIEW - what God infers, HIS purpose and intention for marriage Ephesians 5 Hebrews 13:4 Gen 2-3 Song of Solomon (Songs) 1 Corinthians 7 1. ONE ANOTHER RELATIONSHIPS - God’s Standard for ALL our relationships in the Body (including marriage) John 13:34-35 - They will know you are my disciples by how you love one another Rom 12:10 - Be devoted to one another, honor one another above yourselves. 1 Corinthians 1:10 - Be perfectly united in mind and thought. Galatians 5:13 - Serve one another in love 1 Thessalonians 5:11 – Encourage one another, build one another up Hebrews 10:24 – Spur each other to love and good deeds 1 John 1:7 – Have fellowship as we walk in the light 1 John 4:11 – Have AGAPE love for one another James 5:16 – Confess your sins to each other 1 Thessalonians 5:13 – Love at peace with each other Colossians 3:9 – Do not lie to each other (Prov 12:22 - Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord) Ephesians 5:21 – Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. [Ephesians 5:22 – Submitting to husband as to the Lord, contextually, God doesn’t condone pornography or adultery – Matthew 5:27-28] Colossians 3:12-13 – Bear with one another Matthew 6:14-15 - Forgive one another 1 Peter 4:8 – Love (agape) each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins Complete List of One Another scriptures https://www.truthaccordingtoscripture.com/documents/bible-study/all-the-one-anothers.php#.Xk1s-U9KhR0 Mt 5:37, 2 Timothy 2:2 - Commanded to be trustworthy/keep our word/promises Never commanded to trust in people. Psalm 41:9 - David warned be careful who we trust. John 2:24 - Jesus limited who he entrusted himself to Mt 7:6 - told us to be careful to whom we entrust what is valuable to us. 2. JESUS’ RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN Mary, his mother - John 2, 19:25-27 Peter’s Mother-in-Law – Matt 5:35-43 Widow of Nain – Luke 7:11-17 The Crippled Woman – Luke 13:10-17 Martha sister of Lazarus – John 11 Mary, sister of Lazarus, who anointed him - John 12:1-8 Women who supported him including Salome, Susanna and James’ Mother - Mark 15:40-41, Luke 8:2-3 Samaritan Woman - John 4:1-26,39-42 Bleeding Woman - Mark 5:25-34 Women at the cross/tomb - Joanna, Mary the wife of Cleopas and others – Luke 24:1-10 Sinful Woman - Luke 7:36-50 Woman Caught in Adultery - John 8:1-11 Women on Golgotha road - Lk 23:28 Widow Giving Her Offering – Mark 12:41-44 Syrophoencian Woman – Matthew 15:21-28 Mary Magdalen first person to see him risen - Mk 16:9 3. GOD’S ROLE AS A PROTECTOR AND DEFENDER God defends the weak and fatherless (Ps 82:3) The Lord will protect the needy them from those who malign them (Psalm 12:5) Rescues and delivers the weak and the needy from the wicked (Psalm 82:3-4). We take refuge in the shadow of God’s “wings” until the disaster passes (Psalm 57:1) God protects us from the violent, who scheme against us (Psalm 140:4) God has a shelter/fortress/refuge where we are safe and can rest (Psalm 90:1-4). 1 Cor 6:12-13, 10:23 – everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial or constructive. Philippians 1:9-10 – discern what is best 2 Peter 1:3 – the Scriptures give us everything we need for life and godliness. Take a contextual View of Sexual Purity in Marriage Eph 5:3-7 2 Tim 3:1-11 1 Peter 3:1-6 1 Cor 7:1-5 2 Peter 3:8 - God’s timetable Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 - there is a time for everything Luke 11:24-26 – Fill the vacuum of your mind and life with God’s Word or the world will fill it. Romans 12:2 - Transforming our mind takes deliberate action
It’s so easy to get sucked into an argument with your addicted or unfaithful spouse about what each of US wants. The problem is we don't regularly consider what God wants and expects from us when our marriage is broken. We may turn to books, articles, devotionals, websites, pastors, or teachers, and neglect the primary source for our lives—the Bible. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen addresses a topic that doesn’t get talked about enough—how to recognize when we are unconsciously pushing our own agenda in a broken marriage, changing how we read the scriptures, how to submit to God first so we can see our spouse, ourselves, and our marriage through His eyes, and how to practically maintain that standard even when our unrepentant partner refuses to change. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopef... For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
When you have a spouse who has been unfaithful or is addicted to porn, Valentine’s Day is one of the most challenging holidays to navigate. Our marriage is not what we envisioned it would be! We wanted a knight; we got neglect. We wanted a hero; we got emotional hell. But Biblical love has nothing to do with roses, red hearts, and chocolates. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim talks about how we can prepare ourselves to face down the marketing onslaught that red February brings, learn the biblical definition of love in its four forms—agape, phileo, storge, and eros—and choose how to express that love even to an unrepentant spouse. Kim will also offer practical strategies to those who are married, separated, or divorced so you don’t have to avoid every mall or department store for the next month, but instead, turn February into a month to give and receive love the best way of all—God’s way. Agape Verses - https://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Agape-Love Phileo Study - https://www.preceptaustin.org/love-phileo ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Classic carnival rides have a few things in common with a marriage broken by sexual sin—they often leave us staggering, scared, or sick to our stomach. One other thing they have in common is we can simply refuse to ride. In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen compares some classic carnival rides we may have experienced as children to the adult trauma spouses of sexual addicts and adulterers experience every day. She’ll also discuss the misuse and abuse of Ephesians 5, God’s perfect design for the partnership of marriage, and how betrayed partners can choose to finally get healthy. ____________________ Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/ Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/ For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
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Cristal Hughes

Just what I needed to hear today. Great message!

Jun 5th
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