064 Solace in the Lost and Found
Description
Episode 064 - Solace in the Lost & Found
The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori
Show Notes
Loss changes the rhythm of life. It reshapes conversations, rewires memories, and redefines silence. But hidden inside grief is often a quiet invitation - to carry forward what was best in the one we’ve lost.
In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori shares a powerful conversational frame that helps others (and ourselves) move not on from loss, but with it. It begins with true listening - TING - the kind of listening that uses your whole presence. From that deep attention, something extraordinary can happen.
Here’s the simple, human pattern:
Listen wholly. Not to fix. Not to fill silence. Just to hold space.
Notice permission signals. When someone shifts from facts to stories, they’re inviting depth.
Spot the light. When they describe a beautiful trait of the one they’ve lost - pause there.
Invite expansion. “Tell me more about how they made others feel loved.”
Honor it. Acknowledge its beauty. Sit in it for a beat.
Then, gently reframe. “If you were to bring a little more of that into your own life, what might that look like?”
It’s not about replacing or distracting from grief. It’s about transformation through continuation - helping someone find the living thread of their loved one in the acts and traits they admired most.
Grief doesn’t have to be the end of connection. It can be a new beginning of carrying forward what was good, kind, and true.
Reflection Prompt:
Think of someone you’ve lost.
What was their superpower?
What would it look like if you paid it forward - even once this week?
Resources Mentioned:
HypnoticGiftsBook.com - Discover how to transform someone’s life in a single conversation
DrTori.com/coaching-application-1on1 - For 1:1 influence immersion coaching
Takeaway:
We honor those we’ve lost not by moving on - but by moving with them, through every act of kindness we continue in their name.
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