You’ve probably heard the advice: “Set him up to win.” But what happens when that feels a little too close to overfunctioning, or like you’re sliding back into old patterns of caretaking, controlling, or doing too much?

In this episode, we unpack what emotional labor really is, how it gets tangled up with the mental load and relational leadership, and why so many women feel like they’re carrying the entire emotional weight of the relationship while still craving deeper connection. We share what healthy emotional contribution actually looks like, where the line lives between giving and self-abandonment, and how to stay connected to your feminine energy while allowing space for healthy masculine energy to meet you.

We talk about:

- The difference between emotional labor, mental load, and overfunctioning

- How to stop disappearing in the name of “keeping the peace”

- Why healthy men may not be stepping in the way you want them to, and what’s actually going on under the surface

- How your body might still be bracing for disappointment, even when your mind says you’re ready for more

- Why it’s not about leaning back or leaning in, but about holding your seat in the relationship

- How to communicate what you really need without performing, shrinking, or overexplaining

- Why your capacity to receive is just as important as your desire to give

- How good, grounded men are already doing emotional labor, and how to recognize it when you see it

- What it looks like to build a relationship where both people are invested, emotionally available, and respected

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