Episode 14 of the ReMasculation Podcast

In today’s episode I sit down with Zach Watson, a self proclaimed recovering Manchild. Zach has become a big positive influence on social media by bringing awareness to invisible labor, decision fatigue, and the negative impacts of mental overload on our relationships. 

We’ve talked before on this show about how the uninitiated man will unconsciously put their woman into the role of their mother or therapist. As we discuss in this episode, acknowledging how much we rely on invisible labor to maintain our lives and households, and making intentional shifts to stop outsourcing decision making to our partners is a crucial step in avoiding this intimacy-killer. 

Zach speaks vulnerably about the impact of being in default mode and burdening his wife with the mental load of his decision making. Like a real King would, Zach took this awareness and turned it into a strategy to better serve his partnership through the implementation of fair play, routine “boring meetings,” agreed upon minimum standards of care, and some simple shifts in communication.

If, like a lot of men, you’ve struggled adapting to cohabitation during COVID quarantine or you find yourself getting into the same simple arguments on a regular basis, then this episode is for you.

Check the links below for a closer look into Zach Watson’s work or search “Zach Watson Recovering Manchild”

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realzachthinkshare/?hl=en

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCGP1ihHIjbtVeP2KPOPCmw: 

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(0:01:56 ) - What is Invisible Labor

(0:05:25 ) - The Impact of Default Mode and Decision Fatigue

(0:09:26 ) - Infantilizing Men, Statements vs Questions

(0:15:20 ) - Defining Masculine and Feminine

(0:18:50 ) - ”Helping Out” vs Co-Creating

(0:26:25 ) - The Importance of “Boring Meetings”

(0:31:30 ) - Minimum Standards of Care

(0:35:25 ) - What She Says vs What I Hear 

(0:39:00 ) - What are you Willing to Die For?

(0:42:02 ) - The Real Value of Invisible Labor

(0:47:40 ) - Showing your Work & Evolving Past Manchild

(0:53:05 ) - Influencers with Integrity

(0:56:50 ) - Final Advice, The Power of the SImple Multiple Choice Question

(1:01:05 ) - Men’s Take on Withholding Sex

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Masculinity, Men’s Work, Femininity, Polarity, Coaching, Psychology, Vulnerability, Communication, Manchild, Recovering Manchild, Vulnerable, Workshop, Invisible Labor, Divorce, Decision Fatigue, Mental Load, Resentment, King, Queen, Intimacy, Authenticity, Battle of the Sexes, Ballad of the Sexes, Withholding, Relationship, Parenting, Partnership, Good Men, Attraction, Standards, Fair Play, Boring Meetings, Multiple Choice, Household, Cohabitating, Child Care, Fatherhood