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156. Do You Really Need to Be “Nice”?

156. Do You Really Need to Be “Nice”?

Update: 2025-09-29
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We’ve all thought it: “I can’t say that (I need to be nice)”.


But what do we really mean by nice, and how does it impact us at work?


“Nice” often shows up as:


  • ​not giving direct feedback,
  • ​not setting boundaries,
  • ​not stating expectations clearly; or
  • ​avoiding “disappointing” people.


In this episode, I’ll walk you through:


  • ​Why “nice” holds us back at work,
  • ​How childhood messages, cultural norms, and confidence cycles feed the myth of “nice,”
  • ​A reframe you can use to be clear, respectful, and caring - without being unkind,
  • ​Simple strategies to help you step out of the “nice trap” and into real, confident communication.


Want to be more Confident At Work?



Cover art by Jacob McFadden

Theme song by Melissa Carter @ Making Audio Magic 

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156. Do You Really Need to Be “Nice”?

156. Do You Really Need to Be “Nice”?

Anna Manning