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Episode Description:

In this episode, Sam Tielemans, licensed marriage and family therapist and host of the Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction Podcast, reveals the only plan you need to quit pornography in 2025 — and why everything you’ve tried before may have failed not because you’re broken, but because you’ve been focused on the wrong problem.

Instead of managing urges, guarding against temptation, or just adding more filters and check-ins, this episode explores how pornography use is a coping mechanism — and the real key is learning how to identify and resolve the root cause driving the behavior.

Sam shares a powerful analogy using a tipping water bucket to illustrate why men often relapse into porn even when they’re doing everything “right.”

You’ll hear a real story from a husband trying to make sense of why he fell back into porn use, and how the issue wasn’t a lack of discipline — it was unresolved shame and emotional pain building up inside.

You'll learn:

Why the right porn recovery plan must address underlying issues like shame, low self-worth, emotional disconnection, and perfectionism

How stress isn’t the root issue — but the emotional meanings attached to it are

What wives need to understand about pornography addiction in marriage

How husbands can rebuild trust in their marriage by showing their wives they’re doing the real emotional work

Why focusing only on urge management keeps you stuck, tired, and ashamed

Whether you're a husband struggling with pornography or a wife trying to understand the healing process, this episode offers clarity, hope, and a clear framework to finally move forward.