212: She’s Flooded. He's Trying. Nothing Is Working. Here’s What to Do Next.
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Episode show notes:
This episode is about what happens when a husband has stopped using porn, is trying to do better, but his wife still doesn’t trust him. He says the right things. He tries to be supportive. But she’s triggered, shut down, or angry — and nothing he says seems to help.
This is a common part of porn addiction recovery in marriage. Even when the behavior stops, the pain doesn’t go away right away. Wives often carry deep fears after porn use, and their nervous systems stay on high alert. In this episode, listeners will learn why that happens and what to do about it.
What This Episode Covers:
- Why healing from porn addiction takes more than just quitting
- What happens when a wife feels emotionally unsafe, even if things are improving
- How betrayal trauma affects her body and reactions
- What to do (and not do) when she gets triggered
- Why trust won’t rebuild through words alone — but through consistent action
- How men can build real emotional safety in the relationship
- How women can begin to soften once they feel true change over time
- Real stories of couples rebuilding after porn addiction hurt their marriage