#244 - Mindset Monday: The Myth of the “Good Dad”
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We’ve all heard it: “At least he’s a good dad.” It sounds comforting, but it’s often a cover for hard truths. In this Mindset Monday, we dig deep into what fatherhood really means - and why showing up at games, birthday parties, or posting highlight-reel moments doesn’t make the cut. You cannot be a bad husband and a good dad.
We break down the myths that underlying ideas and biases that keep this narrative alive - visibility bias, selective memory, social reinforcement - and how they let men claim the title of “good dad” while leaving their families with the real weight of dysfunction. We challenge the idea that you can separate being a father from being a husband, making the case that the two are inseparable: you cannot mistreat your partner, live in dishonesty, or create chaos at home and still call yourself a good dad.
Together, we raise the bar for what fatherhood should mean today: integrity, consistency, emotional safety, shared mental load, and modeling love through respect. We ask the hard questions: Would you want your daughter to marry a man like you? Do your kids feel safer when mom is around? Are you raising children who know what love looks like - or kids who will spend years recovering from the absence of it?
This episode isn’t about crushing anyone’s spirit - it’s about lifting men higher, giving spouses language to see the full picture, and inviting all of us to stop settling for the bare minimum. When we raise the standard for dads, we change families, marriages, and future generations.
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