If you’re an ADHD woman, especially a high-achieving one, chances are you’ve spent most of your life using coping habits that helped you survive… until they slowly stopped working.

In this episode, I’m sharing the three coping patterns that supported me for decades but eventually contributed to resentment, exhaustion, and burnout.

We’ll explore how these habits formed, why they seemed helpful, and how they quietly became stress responses that drained my energy, presence, and joy.

And most importantly — we’ll walk through what I’m doing differently now so you can begin shifting these patterns in your own life.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re running behind, over-functioning, or trying to “get it right” so nothing explodes later… this episode will help you feel seen, understood, and less alone.

✨ Mentioned in the episode:

The ADHD 5-Step Task Master Plan — a free, compassionate guide to help you get things done without burning yourself out.

Grab it here: https://jenbarnes.org/task-master-plan/

—CHAPTERS—

00:00 Introduction: The Hidden Cost of ADHD Coping Habits

01:06 Welcome to the Self Loved ADHD Woman's Way Podcast

02:11 Maladaptive Coping Habit #1: Saying Yes to Everything

04:51 Maladaptive Coping Habit #2: Perfectionism

06:55 Maladaptive Coping Habit #3: Hyper Efficiency

10:08 Shifting Towards Healthier Habits

12:31 Conclusion: Embrace a Sustainable Life

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