3 Practical Ways To Live By Design Not Default
Description
Feeling stuck in a life that isn’t truly yours?
This week on Culture Crush, we explore three powerful strategies for designing a life filled with purpose, impact, and genuine fulfilment with Wilson Obeneme. Wilson is a coach who helps leaders unlock their potential and create a legacy that matters, and in this episode we focus on actionable steps you can take towards self-discovery, mindful living, and lasting personal growth.
Questions to Reflect On While Listening
↳ Do you keep doubting yourself? And why do you think that might be? This links to Wilson’s discussion on identifying and leveraging your strengths to build confidence and overcome self-doubt (10:01 ).
↳ Do you find yourself chasing other people’s expectations of you? Reflect on this as Wilson explores the importance of aligning your actions with your core values and personal vision (17:07 ).
↳ Are you looking to other people for a sense of validation? Or are you able to find that from within? This ties back to the discussion on building a life based on intrinsic motivation and fulfilling your own definition of success (20:27 ).
Episode Highlights
↳ Living by Design, Not Default: Wilson introduces the concept of consciously designing your life rather than passively accepting societal expectations (06:33 ). He emphasises understanding your strengths and aligning them with what genuinely brings you fulfilment (9:35 ).
↳ Uncovering Your True Fulfilment: The episode explores the difference between happiness and fulfilment (8:51 ). Wilson encourages listeners to identify activities or states that naturally excite them and bring them into a “flow state” (9:56 ), where they feel truly engaged and fulfilled (10:01 ).
↳ How You Want to Be Remembered: Wilson emphasises the importance of identifying your core values and attributes (17:29 ). He suggests reflecting on what characteristics you want people to associate with you, even in your absence (18:58 ). The discussion includes considering the legacy you want to leave behind and the impact you want to have on others’ lives (22:26 ).
↳ Impact and Achievement Beyond Material Success: The conversation shifts towards defining achievement and impact not solely through monetary success, but also through the positive influence you have on others (29:31 ). Wilson underscores the significance of considering the ripple effect of your actions and striving to create positive change in the lives of others, even if on a smaller scale (31:03 ).
↳ The Importance of Authenticity: Both Dan and Wilson discuss the importance of being authentic in your pursuits. Authenticity helps you connect with the right people and build a business or career that truly aligns with your values and passions (36:49 ).
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Chapters
00:00 Welcome to Culture Crush
06:33 Living by Design, Not Default
08:51 Uncovering Your True Fulfilment
17:07 How You Want to Be Remembered
29:31 Impact and Achievement Beyond Material Success
36:49 The Importance of Authenticity