This is a good one yall…Betsy explores the energetic shift that happens when we make a decision and how to pay more attention to our subconscious and rely less on logic alone. If you have been circling in indecision, big or small, this one is for you! Betsy invites us to think less about what to do and more about who you want to be.

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 Welcome to The Art of Living Big, where we explore how to live intentionally and with more joy. I’m Betsy Pake your host, master, coach, and creator of the Navigate Method. Here to help you listen in to your true desires, elevate your standards, and live life to the fullest. Now, let’s go live big.

Hi everybody. Welcome to the Art of Living Big. I missed you last week. It got to be a crazy, hectic week, and then by the time that I had to have everything recorded, I just was like, you know what? I’m going to take a bath and get a massage and everyone will forgive me because I was really overdone. So I’m excited to be here this week though, and I have, I an episode for you that I think might be interesting, like no matter where you are in your life or what your challenges are or what’s.

Coming up for you. We all have decisions to make, right? Things that we have to choose between, and the more that I live my life, the more I think that decisions are not just, in fact, probably less logical thought out. It’s more energetic. So today I am gonna talk about something that could really change everything, not because it gives you more to do, but because it helps you to shift the energy that you are being while you do it.

So we’re gonna dive in here to the energy, be behind decisions. So, okay. I think when we think about decision making. We think about it as something we have to do in our heads. You know, I talk to people all the time and they’re like, I have done so many pros and cons list, and we even hear that as a strategy to make a decision, make a pros and cons list, which I think just makes me circle in even more chaos making a pro, because both lists seem good, right?

Which I could go into my whole. My whole diatribe about how there is no right decision. There’s no right or wrong, right? And that’s how come a pros and cons list doesn’t feel right, because there’s no right or wrong the universe isn’t going to. Punish you with a bad outcome if you choose the wrong thing.

Like that’s just not how it works. No matter which choice you make and which road you go down. Both roads, , have bumps and both roads have flows, you know, and so there is no right decision, but I believe that deciding is an energetic act. It’s not just a thought, but it’s a frequency shift, and when you can do it from that layer, then your cobblestone road doesn’t seem so cobblestoney, right?

You’re able to handle the ups and the downs in a way that feels so much more aligned because you are energetically. On the path that you’re on, instead of energetically being on one path and your brain being on the other path or hopping back and forth between paths. We always hear people say, you know, the universe isn’t giving you what you want because you’re not being clear.

And I think a pros and cons list gives us that not being clear because both sides could make sense. And , you’ve probably felt this before. It’s like this moment. Where you finally decide something like fully decide after you have been circling and rehashing and thinking about it forever, right?

Maybe it’s deciding to leave a job or to say yes to something new or to stop trying to fix something that isn’t working, but that moment that you decide there is a click. You can feel your whole body relaxes. It becomes way less anxiety ridden, even though you haven’t even done the thing. You’ve just made the decision to do the thing.

Your mind gets quiet, you just feel lighter, and that is not a coincidence. That is energy reorganizing itself before you make a decision, your energy is scattered. It’s like trying to tune. Like a couple radio stations all at the same time. Right. , I am imagining in the car. You know, , and I don’t know why, because I haven’t had the kind of tuner in my car where you turn the little knob and the little dial moves.

It’s like a analog radio. But that’s the image in my mind. Right. And you can’t tune it to two stations. Like you gotta turn it to one or the other. Otherwise , you won’t get anything. So when part of you says, I want this, and another part of you says, , but what if that’s the wrong choice? Again, thinking there’s a right and wrong.

The universe can’t line things up for you because it doesn’t know which signal to follow, and your subconscious mind can’t either. So remember, whenever I talk about the universe, I love talking about the universe and energy and all of those things, and I believe that there is a. Greater force out there for us.

And I also know that we can line up the way our brains work to how we talk about the universe. So your subconscious mind cannot look for the right things, right? Look for the coincidences and the things that it could be looking for that would bring you down the path you wanna go if it doesn’t know what it’s looking for.

Your subconscious mind wants safety above all else. So when it feels that indecision, that like hyper wobble, it interprets that as danger, right? So it says, well wait a minute. Hold on, let’s not move forward till we totally know, but , we never totally know. And so. This feeling, and I’ll hear people say this sometimes inside the Navigate method, , they’re like, I just wanna know.

Like I just wanna be certain. And I get that. Like we would wanna be certain, but certainty doesn’t come before the decision. It comes after, like that’s the paradox. And when you make a clear, energetic decision. You’re not just choosing a path, you’re shifting your identity. And I we’ll talk about that a little bit more, but what you’re saying to the universe and to your subconscious is this is who I am now.

This is the choice that I have made. This is the path I’m going down. And that is when everything starts to move. Right? And I see this all the time with clients , and I’ve lived this myself, right? When we’re in that in-between place, what I sometimes call the wobble, or sometimes I say it like feels crunchy, right?

It feels like hell, really. It’s not that you don’t know what to do, it’s that you’re afraid of what happens after you do it. Fear of loss or the fear of change, or you know, the fear of no longer being who you were. And it’s not just about roles. When I say identity, I’m not talking about roles. Like I’m not saying you as a wife or a coworker or a mom or a, like, I’m not talking about your role as much as you are, who you are, being right, how you’re showing up what you are energetically embodying.

As that identity. So when we have this choice to make, , our conscious mind says, I want something new. Like, I don’t like what’s happening. I want something different. But your subconscious mind says, but that sounds really unfamiliar. So you know, that might not be safe. So maybe not. And unfortunately, you know, your subconscious mind always wins.

It always wins. Until you decide differently, because that decision is what reprograms the subconscious. It’s what tells your inner system it’s totally safe. Now we have chosen, right? And without that choice, your brain just keeps hopping back and forth between these two pathways. Right? It stays is the pros and cons list or the this path or that path.

Like both roads could work. It just depends, like which adventure you wanna go on. And if you keep going back and forth, you’re gonna keep finding new evidence to stay stuck. You know, I hear people all the time, they’re like, I just need a sign. I just want some clarity. I have somebody in my program that can’t even say the word clarity.

She’s like, I, it is, that’s like a hot potato word. Like I just can’t even say it makes me sick to my stomach. But clarity isn’t gonna come before her decision. It’s gonna come, it’s gonna be created by the decision. So, all right, so here’s what happens energetically when you decide, I wanna talk about this.

So when you energetically make a decision, basically you are. Collapsing all the other timelines. Right? If you could think of your life as like, I mean, in infinite number of choices you could make, think about the number of choices you make in any given day. And you might be thinking like, well, I made like six or seven choices today at work.

But no, you made a choice of when to take a drink, when to walk down the hall, when to make a phone call, when to, like, there was prob, there was infinite number of choices you can make in every single day. Right? And when we. When we choose those other options that could have been potentials out there basically collapse, right?

You stop and it collapses because you stop entertaining though, well, what if that road, what if that road right? You are not even looking at those anymore. And so they essentially disappear and all of your energy comes home. It stops being scattered across all those different possibilities and it starts to flow in one direction, and that is when something really magic happens.

So that is when we feel momentum. And that’s when people go, Ugh, I feel so much better. I feel so much better. It’s when , synchronicity start showing up, right? The, right people, the right conversations, the , people will say , oh my God. All of a sudden this thing showed up and then I’ve gotten email, and the email linked me to this and that, and all of a sudden it’s so magical.

And I love, love, love when that happens. I love the magic. But it’s not actually because life suddenly changed. It’s actually ’cause your