64: What is the female gaze?

Update: 2025-05-13

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What do straight women find attractive? Too many men think the answer is ‘big muscles’ says Ash, who has a big theory about sensuality. Plus: what to do when your boss is a bigot.

Come and see If I Speak LIVE in London on 21st May! Join Ash, Moya and special guest Monica Heisey – comedian and author of Really, Good Actually – at EartH in East London, followed by a social. Tickets are available from Dice.

Send your dilemmas to ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.

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