What happens when your abusive ex uses the courtroom as their new weapon? For many domestic violence survivors, escaping the relationship is only the beginning. Family court can become the next battleground—a place where abusers weaponize the legal system to continue control, drain finances, and punish their victims.

In this powerful episode of 1 in 3, Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got Out and a survivor of legal abuse, shares her decade-long journey through high-conflict divorce and coercive control. After more than 100 court appearances across two states—and successfully defending herself against a $4 million defamation lawsuit filed by her ex-husband—Lisa turned her experience into advocacy and education for others trapped in similar cycles.

Lisa breaks down practical strategies for documenting abuse patterns, communicating strategically, and protecting children caught in the crossfire of manipulation and alienation. She also explores how to work effectively with attorneys, guardian ad litems, and court evaluators who may not understand narcissistic abuse or coercive control dynamics.

You’ll learn why “staying for the kids” often causes more harm than good, how to build critical thinking skills in children, and the importance of self-preservation throughout prolonged litigation. Most importantly, Lisa reframes the survivor narrative:

“Abusers don’t target you because you’re weak—they target you because you’re strong. Because you shine.”

For anyone navigating family court after domestic violence, this episode offers validation, empowerment, and actionable tools to reclaim control and move forward safely.

💜 Listen now to learn how to recognize legal abuse, protect your peace, and find community with others who’ve been there—and got out.

Lisa's Links:

https://beentheregotout.com/

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/lisa-johnson/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

Contact 1 in 3:

• Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com
• Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
• Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/

Thank you for listening!

Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe