In this episode of 1 in 3, host Ingrid speaks with Tracy DiTomasi, CEO of Callisto and a licensed clinical social worker with over 25 years of experience in gender-based violence. Together, they confront the ways society talks—or avoids talking—about sexual assault. Too often, we use euphemisms, passive language, and subtle victim-blaming that shifts focus away from perpetrators. Tracy refuses to participate in that avoidance.

She breaks down the essential terminology of sexual violence, challenges persistent myths, and explains why sexual assault is about power and control—not sex. Tracy discusses why many survivors freeze during attacks instead of fighting back and why communities struggle to believe that respected individuals can commit sexual violence. Most critically, she reveals how our systems continue to fail survivors by placing the burden of accountability on those who’ve already been harmed.

The conversation’s most groundbreaking segment explores Callisto, a nonprofit technology platform that’s redefining how survivors can seek justice on their own terms. Using end-to-end encryption, Callisto allows users with .edu email addresses to securely record perpetrator information. If another survivor names the same person, a confidential advocate connects them to review next steps and resources—without pressure or exposure.

Whether you’re a survivor seeking resources, a supporter learning how to help, or an advocate for safer communities, this episode offers vital insights into the realities of sexual assault, the failures of traditional systems, and the innovative tools empowering survivors today.

Listen, share, and help amplify this conversation about accountability, consent, and survivor-centered change. Subscribe to 1 in 3 and leave a review to help others find support and solutions that make a difference.

Tracy’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/tracy-detomasi/

https://www.projectcallisto.org/

https://www.instagram.com/callisto?igsh=MTZudXJ2bHVnNjN2Yg%3D%3D

https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracydetomasi/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe