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#93: Why You Keep Attracting Narcissists and How to Break the Cycle

#93: Why You Keep Attracting Narcissists and How to Break the Cycle

Update: 2025-12-052
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Feel like a narcissist magnet?  If you keep dating narcissists, attracting narcissists, or you keep repeating narcissistic relationship patterns, there’s a reason, and it has everything to do with something no one is telling you. The truth is, narcissistic relationships take hold when you sideline your own needs and shrink your self-worth.




Hilary breaks down the traits that make women vulnerable to toxic relationships with narcissistic men: people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, craving attention, chasing validation, overgiving as a way to feel valuable. These habits create the perfect entry point for a narcissist!  This isn’t about blaming you; it’s to finally see the role you play so you can stop repeating it.




This episode gives you a path to break the cycle of attracting narcissists for good. What shifts when you trust yourself again? How different would dating feel with real boundaries instead of fear? Hilary shows you how self-loyalty becomes the filter that keeps narcissistic partners out of your life and pulls you back into your own power.




Episode Highlights:




  • Why you keep attracting narcissists




  • The patterns that pull you into toxic relationships




  • How people-pleasing kills your boundaries




  • The magnet traits narcissistic partners chase




  • What healing after narcissistic abuse really requires




  • The mindset shift that ends the cycle for good






Episode Breakdown:


00:00 Understanding the Attraction to Narcissists


03:12 The Impact of Narcissistic Relationships


06:03 Shifting the Focus: From Narcissists to Self-Reflection


08:55 Identifying and Flipping Magnet Traits


11:48 Healing and Moving Forward




Ready to stop attracting narcissists and start choosing real love? Join me inside Ready for Love and learn how to trust yourself again.




✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.




💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.




🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.




✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 




🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass




💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply




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Comments (2)

Sarah Lockwood

This is so true even though it’s hard to hear!

Dec 5th
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#93: Why You Keep Attracting Narcissists and How to Break the Cycle

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