Lori Young, a Ready for Love alum, decided she was done settling for crumbs of affection, heartbreak, and controlling men. Instead of buying the couch she’d been saving for, Lori put that money into herself—and it changed everything.

In this conversation with me, Lori shares how she broke old patterns, stopped confusing drama for chemistry, and learned to ask for what she actually wanted. Today she’s married to a secure, steady partner, thriving in her career, and bold enough to run for city council.

If you’ve ever found yourself replaying the same relationship story and wondering why nothing changes, Lori’s story will challenge you to ask: when are you going to stop playing small and finally invest in yourself?

Episode Highlights:

• The Saturday night moment that pushed Lori to finally say “enough”


• Why investing in yourself is smart money


• The Chinese finger trap metaphor that freed her from control games


• How to stop chasing fireworks and start choosing safe, steady love

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Meet Lori Young

02:53 The Journey to Self-discovery

05:55 Investing in Yourself

08:52 Lessons from the Ready For Love Program

12:09 Embracing New Opportunities

14:57 Navigating New Relationships

17:49 Finding Authenticity

21:04 Celebrating Growth and Success

23:57 The Power of Community

26:58 Fearless, Unafraid, Unintimidated

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

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