If your relationship looks good on paper but feels empty, this episode explains why settling in love keeps happening and how it quietly trains you to accept less in relationships.

Hilary gets direct about why smart, capable women keep choosing the wrong men and staying in relationships that technically work but emotionally fall flat. This is not a dating pool problem. It is a self-worth and scarcity mindset issue that shows up when fear of being alone feels safer than asking for more. If you have ever talked yourself into “good enough” while feeling lonely in a relationship, this conversation will land.

This episode is a reality check with teeth. Hilary challenges you to stop dating for someone’s potential instead of their reality, to stop excusing red flags, and stop waiting to be chosen. As 2026 approaches, the message is clear. Raise your standards, trust that what you want exists, and walk away from what does not align. The fastest way to stop settling in love is to stop accepting what you already know is not enough.

Episode Highlights:

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  How settling in relationships hides behind “good enough”

  
  


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  Why smart women still choose the wrong men

  
  


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  The fear that keeps you stuck in unfulfilling love

  
  


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  Being chosen vs choosing on purpose

  
  


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  Why dating potential never pays off

  
  

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Why Settling in Relationships Keeps You Unfulfilled

01: 05 What Settling Actually Looks Like

02:37 5 Reasons Why You Could Be Settling

10:03 How to Stop Settling and Get the Relationship You Want

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

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