This episode is an update from my personal story. I had a recurrence scare in November/Dec/January of 2024 and 2025, and this is the way it's sorting itself out. Always something to learn! --Kathleen

 

Transcript:

Welcome back to season two. Today's episode is episode three of this new season. And as promised last week, I will just be talking about my own story this week. I had a recent recurrence scare and I think it's resolving nicely. It's kind of an interesting non ending that I'm at right now. I really thought that it would be all understood by now, but it's still a little bit of a mystery.

But, um, at least my pathology came back okay, so that's good. And I, uh, Wanted to share this, not because I think it's so interesting or profound, but because I think it's good. You hear a lot of stories of recurrence that don't end well or that end with cancer, and you don't hear a lot of stories of recurrence scares that do end well.

And I think a lot of us keep our recurrence possibilities really silent because we don't want to worry people, and that's a really good intention and probably a good plan, but When we do keep them completely to ourselves, it can really eat away at us. And so I want to encourage people to tell their stories and be open and willing to upset people or worry people.

It's been really hard for me to do so. So I'm not saying it's easy, but I just want to set that example for anyone else out there that struggles with this. I know a lot of us have quite a few recurrent scares in our journey. So it's unfortunately something that happens pretty often for a lot of us.

So I'll tell my story briefly. Started in early November. I had a little lump about half the size of a dime and maybe two times as tall as a dime on my chest right in the center and thankfully it was in a really easily identifiable spot because I had still have a floral tattoo on my chest, and it was right in the center of one of the roses on my chest.

And so I went to see my oncologist. I actually happened to already have an appointment with her set up, so I didn't have to scramble to set one up. And it actually was still there when I got there, and she felt it too. And as the days passed, uh, through mid November, it got a little more tender, a little bit more painful to the touch.

And then suddenly, one day, it was gone. And she did order an ultrasound, but that ultrasound took many weeks to set up. I won't go into all the reasons why, but, uh, it was quite delayed. And before I even got to that ultrasound that she ordered, STAT, in early November, I was ordered an MRI from months prior, just on a regular schedule, to do an every other year MRI for surveillance.

because I still have a little bit of breast tissue, um, possible in my Goldilocks mastectomy side. And so I'm eligible for an every other year MRI, which is nice because I really like the idea of doing surveillance as much as I can. So that came up actually before the ultrasound. I did finally get the ultrasound set up for mid December.

Um, but, um, The MRI came up beforehand and it was in the first week of December and by that time, the lump had completely disappeared. I had no thought of it. I actually never really got worried about it because I've had so many little false alarms on my chest. I've had little bumps and lumps and, um, cysts and, like, Just tiny little skin things that are irritating.

I've just gotten used to having those. I've never had them ever before breast cancer, but I think it's pretty common to have them after. And so I've had so many false alarms that I've just been kind of numbed to them. And so I wasn't worried about it, didn't think a thing of it. I thought I had completely resolved until I got the call from the MRI.

um, assistant, the radiologist assistant saying that there was something on my MRI and they wanted me to come in for an ultrasound. So I said, well, I already have an ultrasound set up. So that's perfect. I don't even have to wait this time. So um, I did have that, assistant person who called me, read me the orders from the radiologist because I knew it would be really hard to get access to that.

And I knew I'd be worried about that. And so that's something I'm really glad that I did. Unfortunately, she didn't read me the whole thing. She summarized it in her own words and got it way wrong. And so, which is a good thing. In the end, it was a blessing because I was a lot less worried. Um, there were actually two areas of concern on that MRI.

One was in my chest wall and one was in a lymph node. So as soon as I heard from her about this, I went and felt for my lymph node, and I felt it right away. It was like the same tender kind of lump that I had felt in my chest, the same feeling had kind of migrated into my underarm. And from then on I felt it just about every day just to kind of keep track of it.

And Pretty soon after that, I did have the ultrasound just a few days later, and so that was good. The radiologist that I go to for my ultrasounds now, is not a part of my hospital system. She has her own private clinic, so she runs her own radiology clinic and imaging center. And so, um, she always does this, which is amazing, but she offered to just go ahead and biopsy.

it with a needle right on the spot, um, because she did see concern. She did, uh, rate it as a BI RADS 4, which is suspicious. She called it a lymph node. She said she would do a little needle biopsy, and I said, No, I really want to wait, talk to my oncologist. I don't want to jump into anything. I think I might want to have the whole lymph node out.

Mostly because I, I've had a history of lobular breast cancer and I know that needles can miss that in biopsies. Um, and then later on I was thinking about it and I thought, oh, I know another reason why I said no. It's because I have a reaction to titanium and I knew she'd leave a titanium clip in,

as a marker, and that would have been a really stressful decision for me on the spot. So it's really good that I had time to think about it. I had time to email back and forth with my oncologist who was on leave at that time. She was on vacation, but she was great at responding to my emails and I decided to have Or to try to have a surgical biopsy, which means you take the whole lymph node out as a whole with an incision, um, small surgery.

And I couldn't find, at first I couldn't find a surgeon that would do that. I talked to one surgeon and her staff and she said no. And then the second surgeon I talked to was my actual first breast cancer surgeon. She had done my first mastectomy and she said yes. So we scheduled it, it was just a week later, it was a week ago.

And a week and two days, a week and three or four days ago from now. And I had to go under anesthesia and it was just really clear. She said she remembered where it was. She didn't even like feel for it to see where it was. She just drew a little line on the edge of my, where my chest meets my underarm.

And she did the incision. And at the end of my surgery she told my husband, I think I got it. I didn't see it, but all I saw was scar tissue, so I wouldn't have seen it. Um, but I believe it was inside. What I did get had to wait a week for pathology and just a couple days ago Pathology came back. I Went in to see her.

I had scheduled an appointment to go over pathology and just before I went in to see her I did peek at my chart, which I am NOT Now, I am regretting that. I'm not thinking that was a good decision and I think in the future I will try really hard not to look at my chart to find my pathology report before sitting in a room with a professional because what it said was no lymphoid tissue detected.

So basically it said nope. We didn't get the lymph node and I was flipping out. I was like, Oh no, I just went through all this surgery. I didn't anesthesia, all this recovery, you know, everything all for the sake of not getting a single thing. We missed it. It's still in there. I showed up to her office just a couple hours later and with that attitude of like, Oh, Dang, let's get an ultrasound and make sure it's still in there.

And she said, Oh, we can't have an ultrasound. Um, you're all inflamed from the surgery. You'll be inflamed for at least a couple months. We'll do it in about three months. And I was like, I can't wait three months to find out if this thing is still in me.

Can you do it a little sooner than that?

She said, yeah, she could do it in two months, but no sooner than two months. So I was like, Oh man. And she said, I really don't think that it's still in there. I think it never was. There never was a lymph node in there. And at first I was like, I mean, It was in there and then it just went away right before surgery because I felt it in there.

And she was like, no, I think it was maybe something else that looked a lot like a lymph node. And, um, just was really, really convincingly looking like a lymph node on both the MRI and ultrasound. And I said, well, all they found was fat and scar tissue on the pathology report. So how could those things be?

And then I showed her my latest ultrasound. which had just happened less than a week prior to surgery. It was just three days prior and it said that I had blood flow detected to the lymph node that they were supposed to take out. And I was like, there's no blood flow. That goes to fat or scar tissue.

Like that doesn't make sense, right? Like, and she couldn't really answer that, but I came out of her office feeling really, really confused. Like my head was just spinning and I knew I should be grateful that pathology said it was benign tissue. There was no cancer. That's the result that I was des