I wrote a Substack post about what nourishment really takes and then I made a little video over on instagram showing what I do to nourish myself in a day.

I received a lot of really good questions and comments about what came up for people seeing the practical ways I center nourishment in my life. I also got a lot of comments to the tune of “this seems so hard!” or “I could never do that!” or “That’s not realistic for my life.”

In this piece, I am attempting to really parse apart some the intricate reasons for the resistance people have towards whole body nourishment.

Nourishment Doesn’t Have to be Your Medicine

I have no agenda other than to hold the frequency of nourishment and transmit it.

I do not, in any way shape or form, believe that all humans need to value nourishment above all else.

We all have our unique paths, journeys, lessons we are here to learn, and work we have to do in the world. Sometimes nourishment isn’t part of your journey. That is totally ok with me.

It just so happens that nourishment is one of my highest held values for myself and my family. It is the thing I attune people to in my work in the world. It’s literally and figuratively, what I eat, sleep and breathe.

It is important to point out that nourishment has been my teacher for my whole life.

My early years, I was extraordinarily undernourished and completely unaware of my body and its needs. I have now made nourishment the center of my world. Initially because of necessity and now out of pure love and desire to love myself as deeply as I can.

It really is, in my case, the adage of my biggest wounds being the place of my greatest medicine.

Nourishment, as a frequency, continues to teach me more than any other energy I have come into contact with. So, I continue to be immersed in the refinement of this medicine and healing the places where I am still not really in full alignment with it.

Other people have other subjects of deep pain and healing in their lives.

We all have the seeds within our greatest pain for our greatest potential.

And I don’t mean potential in some sort of grand materialistic, conventionally ‘successful’ way, but maybe a quiet beautiful way that is all your own and never “amounts to anything” outside of the way it changes you.

Food based nourishment might not be your thing. That is totally ok. Many people live beautiful and fulfilling lives without addressing their physical nourishment on any level.

Nourishment, Values, and Discernment

I value food-based nourishment. So I spend my resources (time, money, energy) on food. It makes sense for me because I value it.

There are plenty of things that I value less or don’t value and don’t mind cutting corners on, that other people might be really appalled at.

I don’t wear make up and therefore, never spend time or money on it. I do value skincare and spend time and money doing that. There are probably all sorts of things I don’t value that you really do.

It can be so key to know what you value. Know your values. Know your standards. Know where it’s worth it to you to spend your resources.

That is part of nourishment, being discerning (see: Adult Discernment) with what you spend your resources on.

In the 3D world, there are finite amounts of time, energy, and money. There just are. We can talk about the quantum level and I love to live there sometimes and dream there.

But when you live a full life here in the 3D there are realities that you cannot deny and are important to come to terms with. When you have a baby to take care of, for example, there can be no doubt in your mind, that your resources are finite.

We cannot do it all. We simply cannot. I am a very functional, capable, and efficient person. I can get a lot done. But one of the lessons I’ve learned in the hardest of ways is this: that my energy and my resources are, on one level, are very exhaustible.

Being connected to what I value and making discerning decisions about how I spend my time, money, and energy is necessary for me to feel fulfilled, nourished and in alignment.

We cannot be nourished if we are leaking our energy, time, and money in all directions.

We need clear delineations of what we would like to spend our resources on to live in such a way that feels good, aligned, and like it’s moving us towards what we desire.

Nourishment, Embodiment and Reception

Because I value nourishment, I attempt to only move at the pace of my embodiment.

If I have to force and push myself beyond my capacity to stay with myself just to make dinner because I’m so exhausted, that might be a time when it’s more in service to my nourishment to order a pizza or grab a rotisserie chicken on my way home or hopefully, I stashed away some hot dish casseroles in the freezer, one of my fav ways my past self takes care of my current self).

If you can’t cook a meal and clean up the kitchen in an embodied, present way, but you have to force and push, it probably won’t be a nourishing experience because you won’t be able to receive it. You’ll be leaving some part of yourself behind.

Am I saying I never push myself to clean up the kitchen at the end of the night? No. I do quite often, but I am gauging myself and if it really was going to bring me far outside myself I might definitely leave it or I would power through and then do something really sweet and nourishing for myself after, like a hot bath with candles or reading while putting my legs up the wall and breathing deeply into my back body.

I have to be attuned to myself (see: Self Attunement is the Key to Everything) to know what I need in these moments and not easily collapse into scrolling on my phone or watching TV I don’t even enjoy.

A Matriarch is highly attuned to her own needs AND the needs of the others she cares about, at the same time. This doesn’t mean she always puts others’ needs before her own, it just means she is aware of them and takes them in consideration.

This is where I think a poor model of mature feminine affects so many women in the realm of nourishment.

If we didn’t have a model of what it means to be a woman committed to her nourishment then it doesn’t feel safe and we feel unsafe claiming it for ourselves. Safety is such a big part of being able to receive. You’re not going to truly receive something if you feel unsafe or there are a lot of unknowns involved, because you can’t open.

Imagine a closed fist and an open hand. Which one is going to be able to receive something offered to it?

There is a finite amount of time. You have a finite amount of energy. This is just a 3D fact. So we do have to be really attuned to ourselves (See: Self Attunement is the Key to Everything article) and the values we want to choose to uphold and be willing to make trades and swaps for the things we don’t value as much.

This is where efficiency does matter and commitment to our values does take effort (See: Nourishment Takes Effort).

Nourishment and The Mother

If you are here, I am willing to be there is something within you that yearns for a life that is more nourishing on some level.

Maybe you wish you enjoyed cooking more.

Maybe you wish you knew what to feed your kids so that they grew up robust and strong.

Maybe you just have a feeling that you are in some way under nourished and you’re exploring what would remedy that.

Maybe you are really well physically nourished but you still feel the ache of hunger for something more in your soul.

All nourishment, no matter physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual comes from The Mother. The Mother is where all nourishment is originally derived.

When you think of the word nourishment, what picture comes up for you?

A table full of scrumptious food? A warm cozy couch full of blankets and a fire cracking in the background? A well used kitchen? Maybe a maternal figure of some sort? A soft and curvy woman? A warm embrace? Something else?

I’m willing to bet that whatever it is, it has a feminine feel to it.

We are profoundly lacking in the mature feminine principle in this day and age. It is rare to have a maternal model of a nourished and embodied older woman. It is rare to find a real world example of a wise old crone. And because of this, I believe we are severely undernourished as a society.

I draw a very strong connection between the lack of modeling of mature feminine energy in the world and the collective experience of the lack of true nourishment.

Why Don’t We Allow Nourishment?

Generally, people know how to nourish themselves if they just slow down and listen.

Everyone knows they should spend less time on screens, less time comparing themselves to others, eat more whole foods, and prioritize their sleep.

Everyone knows that nature is healing and that they would be happier if they spent less time being concerned about material gain and more time truly receiving what they already have. We know this.

But, why don’t we make these things part of our everyday realit