A harrowing journey with Madehania Baheta
Description
TRIGGER WARNING: THIS EPISODE CONTAINS A DISCUSSION OF SENSITIVE TOPICS PERTAINING TO DEATH AND TRAUMA
Have you suppressed your pain and trauma in the past? How does unresolved trauma manifest in reality? Why should you commit to yourself to heal the pain?
In this podcast episode, Billy and Brandy Eldridge speak about healing trauma with Madehania Baheta.
Meet Madehania Baheta
Madehania is a Refugee turned Marine turned Doctoral Candidate. His family escaped war in 1979, and he then lived in a refugee camp, before coming to the USA in 1982. Subsequently, he joined the Marine Corps, where he served for 22 years. Currently, Madehania is pursuing his Doctoral degree. He is also a program manager at Pelaton where he has supervised, supported, and trained over 400 logisticians
Connect with Madehania on LinkedIn.
In This Podcast
Summary
- Healing trauma after the event
- Why you should consider working through your trauma
- Look to your “why” for inspiration
Healing trauma after the event
After traumatic events, the stress and anxiety endured settle in the body, and unless we work through those events and “release” the trauma from our bodies, it will remain there.
[My mother] had trauma and … she’d go to church, she’d just pray on it, that’s all she could do and that’s all she knew … [the trauma] still manifested somehow through yelling or breaking down. (Madehania Baheta)
Studies have shown that people with “stuck” trauma and unresolved emotions are more likely to develop illnesses related to compromised immune systems.
Therefore, resolving trauma and healing is both a mental and physical health necessity.
Why you should consider working through your trauma
Many people just want to move on after experiencing something difficult and have it be done.
In the marine corps you don’t have time to deal with your feelings and no one goes and gets help because in the marine corps you’re supposed to just beat your chest and not look weak, but a lot of marines deal with PTSD and personal issues but they don’t get help because of the stigma around it. (Madehania Baheta)
Sometimes people avoid talking about their trauma due to cultural clashes or for fear of judgment.
However, sometimes people are afraid to resolve their trauma with the help of another person because they do not want to be abandoned, or to open themselves up only to be let down or told to suppress it.
That is why you should seek professional help.
I’m happy I did [get help] because it definitely helped me process a lot of stuff, grieve for my friend, and try to be a better husband and father at the same time. (Madehania Baheta)
Look to your “why” for inspiration
Why would you seek help? Who or what is important to you that you want to protect and become better for? Why should you try to be the best version of yourself?
When you are struggling in life, look for your why.
Look for the people who care about you or who you care about, look at your dreams and goals, and the things you want to experience in your life.
Useful links:
- Connect with Madehania on LinkedIn.
- Moving On After Loss & Becoming a Sudden Caregiver with Karen Warner Schueler
- Discover more at The Beta Male Revolution Website
Meet Billy Eldridge
Meet Billy, the resident beta male. For Billy, this is a place to hang out with other beta males and the people who love them. We’re redefining what beta males look like in the world. I have learned to embrace my best beta self, and I can help you to do the same. As a therapist, I understand the need to belong. You belong here. Join the REVOLUTION.
Meet Brandy Eldridge
Hello, Beta friends. I am an alpha personality who is embracing the beta way of life. I feel alive when connected with people, whether that is listening to their stories or learning about their passions. Forget small talk, let’s go deep together. Come to the table and let’s have some life-changing conversations.
Thanks for listening!
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Podcast Transcription
[BILLY ELDRIDGE]
Hello, and welcome to Beta Male Revolution podcast, a podcast that started out by seeing the world through a different lens of masculinity, and now has become a place for people to deconstruct their shit in the second half of life. I’m Billy Eldridge.
[BRANDY ELDRIDGE]
I’m Brandy Eldridge and as a married couple, we’ve had a ton of disagreements, tried to be honest about challenges and setbacks and hopes of becoming better versions of ourselves. So grab a cup of coffee, come hang out, let’s chat a little bit like we’ve known each other for 20 years.
[BILLY]
That’s what I’m talking about. Let’s get jaggy with it.
[BILLY]
Hello, Beta Male Revolution. It is Billy here with Brandy today.
[BRANDY]
Hey boo.
[BILLY]
Hey, how you doing?
[BRANDY]
Good.
[BILLY]
We have with us a guest that Brandy and I talked about for quite a while, because she is in a program of study
[BRANDY]
A doctoral program, and I’m going to just claim it because I’m happy. I’m almost, we are almost finished. We are almost finished.
[BILLY]
I’m sure we’ll get into that. You’ve met such interesting people because you brought so many more interesting guests to the table than I have.
[BRANDY]
I’m keeping score.
[BILLY]
You’re going to, and you’re keeping, there is a log tally of the quality of guests. But today we have a human being that Brandy met through class and she was telling me a bit of his story through hearing about it and I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, I don’t want to hear anymore. Do you think he’d come on the podcast? She’s like, I don’t know. I can ask. She did and he’s here. So I want to welcome Med.
[BRANDY]
Hey Med.
[MADEHANIA BAHETA]
Hey guys. Hey Billy, hey Brandy. Appreciate you guys having me on.
[BILLY]
So tell me Med —
[BRANDY]
Well, hang on. I have to tell the first time I met Med. I have to tell the story, which I think I’ve told on the podcast before. I just didn’t use your name. So Med and I get accepted into this program at USC and the first week we’re on campus I’m crying. I can’t believe I’m here. I feel like a loser. I can’t keep up with the work, everybody’s younger than me, they’re getting it, I’m not, at least this is my perception. I’m like, I really think they took my application as a mercy application, like they needed somebody from a nonprofit. So Med and I are walking to Starbucks in between a class and I just said, I’m just really struggling. I can’t keep up. I’m pretty sure I’m the mercy take on this and Med, this is why I love this guy, he said, oh, I thought that was me because they needed a brown guy. That was it. That was it. I was like joking or not joking, I was like, okay, I’ve got a like-minded person here and since then we’ve had a great time and I wouldn’t have been able to get through these programs without people like Med. That’s it. That’s my Med story.
[BILLY]
Well, thank you.
[MEDEHANIA]
Brandy’s been a great help too. I think we’re both the class clown, so we feed off each other.
[BILLY]
Lighten the mood, so tell me Med, is it just Med or is there more to the name?
[MEDEHANIA]
Yes. So my full name’s Medehania Baheta. I just go by Med for short because in the second grade I sort adopted that nickname because my first name’s so hard to pronounce and I was tired of people butchering it and just having to repeat it each person five times and they still couldn’t get it. So since my first name’s Medehania, Med is just short for Medehania and it’s been a lot easier after that.
[BILLY]
Well, was it difficult to have to come into a world in a culture where you had to
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