Our parents need us as they age. We don't like to look at them as "weak". They raised us, and it's our turn to step up to the plate when they need us.  I've learned, in the past 6 weeks or so, that I have a voice, and when I need to advocate, I'll step up and do it... but maybe I can help someone a little by just having some VERY basic information.   1. Don't wait until you NEED to be there... start now. Get the legal side of things going.  Know what your loved one wants, and have it ready just in case.  Get their Medical Health Care Directive in order.  If there is a DNR, make sure it's available (God forbid).  What care do they want?  What  do they want done to keep them alive if it comes to that?  What is your firm line in the sand for their care in a facility?   2.  You damn well have a voice and your folks need to know you'll use it... ESPECIALLY during a Quarantine when you can't march your ass into a facility to correct something that is not right for your mom or dad.  Here is a website for checking out the nursing homes.   3.  There are resources... you aren't alone.   4.  Do your homework if time allows to find a good facility.  It's scary, and hard to discern... but trust your gut on this.   In Indiana - CICOA can offer all kinds of resources.  https://cicoa.org/ Here is an article on becoming an advocate for your parent.    Here is an article on common issues in nursing homes, but more importantly, how to resolve them.    Here is a little more information on how to handle some of the issues that may arise while your loved one is in a facility.  If you are able to care for them at home, here is a link for some help with that.   You got this.  Go out and love the people you love.  Share a smile with someone.  Drop me a line:  muygrowth@gmail.com.