Tully’s never been one to keep secrets- especially not on a podcast built on oversharing. But since January, she’s been sitting on one. And it’s life-changing.

In this episode, she finally opens up about her late ADHD diagnosis. Like so many women, her journey began with self-diagnosis- TikTok rabbit holes, highlighted self-help books, apps like InFlow, and those lightbulb moments listening to friends. A professional assessment later confirmed what she already suspected.

But what does it mean to get this kind of diagnosis in your late thirties, just when you think you’ve figured life out? Tully and Maggie unpack the rise of late ADHD diagnoses in women, the role of social media as both a lifeline and an overload, and why Tully kept it private until now.

They explore how the label has reframed her past, reshaped her present, and shifted how she sees herself moving forward. It’s candid, messy, and deeply relatable- because sometimes the biggest breakthrough isn’t a hack or trick.

It’s finally giving yourself permission to see who you really are.

CHAPTERS:

01:13 – Weekend Recap

02:10 – The Strapless Bra Saga

04:48 – The Reveal

06:07 – Why I Kept It Private (Until Now)

07:27 – Getting the Diagnosis

09:36 – Relief… and Grief

11:18 – “Too Much” Reconsidered

16:24 – The Inner Critic

18:59 – What Masking Looked Like

19:13 – Late ADHD in Women

22:54 – To Medicate or Not?

34:50 – Therapy Homework

36:09 – Scoop of the Week

39:06 – Exit Interviews

ADHD RESOURCES:

Read

• “The Year I Met My Brain” by Matilda Boseley

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  “Now It All Makes Sense” by Alex Partridge

  
  

Listen: 

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  CLOUD by Life Uncut Production

  
  


• 
  

  ADHD Besties Podcast

  
  

Download: 

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  Inflow - Manage your ADHD

  
  

Follow: 

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  @adhd_couple

  
  


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  @future.adhd

  
  


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  @adhd_chatter_

  
  


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  @superskillsadhd

  
  


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  @sarahkellyadhdcoach

  
  


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  @speakadhd

  
  


• 
  

  @coachingwithbrooke

  
  


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  @adhd_empowerment_coaching

  
  

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You can find Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth.

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