Look, I know why you’re here. Breaking a soul tie sounds a little like “cutting the invisible strings” tethering your heart to someone who—let’s be honest—was not exactly the love of your life. Maybe you’ve tried deleting their number, muting them on social media, or even scrolling past every playlist that reminds you of that one road trip, but still, there’s a magnetic pull. What gives? Well, friend, it sounds like you’re dealing with a soul tie.

Let’s dive into what a soul tie is, why they matter, and how to finally, truly, let go of your ex—with plenty of laughs along the way.

What Is a Soul Tie, and How Did This Happen?

Soul ties are like the heart’s version of Velcro. When we connect deeply with someone—especially in a romantic relationship—there’s an invisible bond formed. Spiritually, emotionally, even mentally, you’re tethered. And if you’re here, the tether is still tugging at you long after the relationship has run its course.

Biblically speaking, soul ties can form through deep emotional intimacy, shared experiences, or physical closeness. Now, none of this is inherently bad. Except when that soul tie becomes a stumbling block in your life. You can’t get over them, and they keep popping up in your prayers like, “Lord, why did You make them so cute?”

Why Breaking Soul Ties Is So Important

Here’s the truth: a lingering soul tie can keep you anchored to your past. Every time you scroll through their Instagram feed or relive old memories, you’re feeding the tie and stopping yourself from healing. The Bible says we are meant to “press on toward the goal to win the prize” (Philippians 3:14 ). Hanging on to the past can hold you back from discovering the blessings God has for your future.

Breaking a soul tie is like cleaning out a cluttered attic; it’s time-consuming and a bit painful, but it’s oh-so-necessary. You deserve the freedom to walk unencumbered into whatever God has next for you!

1. Acknowledge the Soul Tie with Humor and Honesty

First things first, you have to name it. Say it out loud if you need to: “I have a soul tie with [insert ex’s name here] and they’re still renting space in my mind for free.” Just admitting it can be a relief, right? No one can break a tie they won’t acknowledge, and pretending you’re unaffected is the quickest way to prolong the bond.

Example Prayer:

“Lord, I’ve got to be honest. I’m a little tired of my ex showing up like an unwanted guest in my mind. Help me to admit this, and give me the strength to deal with it!”

2. Pray, but Be Specific

Yes, prayer works wonders. But this isn’t the time for vague prayers like, “Dear God, help me move on.” Oh, no. We’re aiming for precision here. Try something like, “Lord, I’m done with this cycle of missing someone who wasn’t for me. Help me cut this tie. Give me a clean break and a clear heart.”

Being specific with God is like giving directions to a confused friend. God already knows your heart, but praying specifically can bring clarity to you. Each time you pray about breaking the soul tie, you’re giving God more control and reminding yourself why this is important.

3. Sever Physical Reminders (Yes, the Hoodie Too)

Breaking a soul tie isn’t just spiritual; there are practical steps too. Do you still have their sweatshirt? Delete their photos? Haven’t unfollowed them yet? Let’s be honest: we keep these reminders around because they’re comforting. They’re like little relics of a relationship that we sort of wish still had life in it.

But it’s time for some spring cleaning, my friend! Gather any mementos that remind you of them—photos, letters, playlists—and either delete, donate, or toss them. If you can’t bear to throw away their favorite hoodie, give it a new home. Even better, let a friend hold you accountable. Call it the “Ex Clean-Up Crew” if you need to.

4. Forgive…Them and Yourself

No one likes the F-word—forgiveness,