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But first...Curiosity

But first...Curiosity

Update: 2025-10-23
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Ever notice how easy it is to slip into a courtroom conversation?
You start building a case in your head, stacking evidence, rehearsing your defense... all before you’ve actually asked a question.

This week’s episode is about the habit that can stop that spiral before it starts: curiosity.

When something feels off—at work, with your kids, or in your marriage—it’s tempting to assume motives or fill in missing details. But curiosity interrupts that pattern. It slows you down long enough to seek understanding before judgment.

Because the goal isn’t to win an argument; it’s to keep connection.

In this episode, we'll unpack:
 • why your brain fills in gaps (and gets the story wrong most of the time)
 • how to replace courtroom conversations with curious ones
 • a pre-confrontation filter that helps you pause before reacting

Listen to “But First, Curiosity: How to Avoid Courtroom Conversations” wherever you get your podcasts.

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