“If he upsets me - I get gifts!”

In this episode, best-selling author and activist Chidera Eggerue (aka The Slumflower) joins us to discuss her transformative ideas on love, relationships, and self-worth.

Known for creating the viral #SaggyBoobsMatter movement, Chidera challenges traditional heteronormative expectations and encourages women to recognise their inherent value, demand more from their partners, and create more equal, empowering relationships. 

With her provocative insights on love, money, and equality, she provides listeners with practical tools to break free from societal norms, set higher standards in their personal lives, and reclaim their power.

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00:00 Intro

00:02:13 History Of Chidera's Moniker 'Slumflower'

00:04:30 Growing Up In Peckham/'Little Lagos'

00:08:00 Chidera Cutting Her Mum Off And Ensuing Therapy

00:10:57 Chidera's Relationship With Her Father

00:13:11 Chidera's Early Romantic Relationships

00:14:31 Was Chidera Loved By Anyone In Her Childhood/Adolescence?

00:16:04 Chidera Has Never Had A Man At Her Flat

00:17:31 How Chidera's Ideology Developed Over Time

00:24:45 The Traditional Idea Of Love Is Damaging To Women

00:27:31 What Does Love Mean To Chidera?

00:29:25 Love, Feminism And Finance

00:31:04 Chidera's Thoughts On The Male Loneliness Epidemic

00:32:15 Is Chidera An Advocate For Marriage?

00:33:41 Why Does Society Struggle With Finance When It Comes To Romance?

00:41:49 Men And Self-Esteem/Ego

00:45:19 'Marriage Is The Lowest Paid Form Of Sex Work'

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00:57:06 Chidera's Definition Of Hypergamy

00:59:40 4B Movement

01:07:01 Chidera Being 'Grey A-Sexual'

01:11:29 Chidera On BDSM And Being A Dominatrix

01:16:14 How Do These Relationships Start?

01:22:17 Chidera's 'Goddess Gina' Alter Ego

01:27:46 A Letter From 'Slave Tux'

01:37:51 Critiques Of Chidera

01:41:24 Most Memorable Conversation

01:46:57 Paul's Takeaways

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