When you're angry,  have you ever tried Counting to 10...before you do or say anything? Or, when learning a new sport or a musical instrument, using some form of counting brings your mind to the task - and to the present moment. And, it's always the present moment where things happen and love & learning occur. When your mind is focused on one task, all sorts of solutions appear. A gateway to greater and more powerful consciousness opens and you are present and in your physical body. From the most present, physical place, your emotions can be addressed and learned to be tolerated. This is because most (maybe all) emotions are learned and conditioned scripts and things developed and nurtured from the past. When you are present, you start to learn that you are NOT feeling things based on what others are doing or saying, or what's happening outside, but what's happening inside. This inside experience is a calling of the highest self, as creative consciousness is asking you to address your own emotional well-being to the exclusion of the outside experience. Right now, the world is validating that your feelings are caused by what's happening outside and it's justifying how you feel based on external events. THIS IS POWERLESSNESS at the level of the victim - and it is DEADLY to your emotional well-being. Pain is a signal or indication that you need to step up and SEE your power. When you deny this pain through avoidance, blaming, medicating or changing things to "get away" from the "source" of your pain (the external or the other, not yourself) you are avoiding growing toward the peace you say you want. What do you really NOW about this peace if you've never even experienced it. Who do you wanna be? Do you want to live in the fullness of your feelings, heart, mind and spirit? You'll probably need to become more autonomous. And then you'll probably feel MORE FEELINGS, not less. This is where trudging the road and seeking help and support comes in. Your unhappy life, living to avoid or living for others is limiting your space your growth and your confidence. Seeing this takes time and help. Get it. Use it.