In Part 2 of my conversation with Sarma Melngailis, we dive into the turning point—the awakening after covert narcissistic abuse. Sarma shares the moment she began to see the manipulation clearly, how she learned to gray rock and set boundaries, and what it means to find freedom after years of psychological control.

Together, we unpack the neurobiology of cognitive dissonance, the pull of trauma bonds, and the courage it takes to finally close the door for good.

In this episode:

• The “ice queen” strategy and how to emotionally disengage
  




• Why closure can be the most dangerous trap
  
  




• How cognitive dissonance and fear keep survivors stuck
  
  




• Rebuilding self-trust after coercion and public judgment
  
  

Her memoir The Girl With The Duck Tattoo continues to open eyes about coercion, consent, and resilience after narcissistic abuse.

Learn more about my coaching and recovery programs at www.covertnarcissism.com

Share your thoughts below—how have you learned to reclaim your voice after manipulation?

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