In this episode, Colter, Cayla, and Lauren break down how to shift your relationship from reactivity to rhythm by learning to create a positive cycle. You’ll hear the story of Andrea and Marcus—a couple stuck in familiar patterns—who begin transforming conflict through small, intentional changes like naming their stories and taking ownership instead of reacting. From practical tools like “the story I’m telling myself…” to the game-changing “help me help you help me” skill, this episode shows how simple awareness and repair can turn everyday tension into deeper connection.

Main Talking Points:

• Awareness of triggers & old cycles


• Naming stories with curiosity


• Accountability vs. defensiveness


• Intentional “deposits” of connection


• Repair through validation & empathy


• “Help me help you help me” negotiation

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