If your mom has ever said, “I’m just trying to help” while your stomach drops and your chest tightens… this episode is for you.

In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, Tandi breaks down how emotionally immature and narcissistic mothers use criticism disguised as concern to control, shame, and manage their daughters. We’ll talk about why she comments on your parenting, your body, your house, your life choices—and why it never actually feels supportive, no matter how “innocent” it sounds.

You’ll learn the psychology behind this pattern: identity enmeshment, image management, and externalized shame. We’ll walk through the telltale signs it’s not help but covert criticism, what happens when you confront her (hello, “you’re too sensitive” and DARVO), and how to finally trust your body’s response instead of gaslighting yourself.

You’ll also get practical scripts and tools:

• How to tell the difference between real support and control
• Non-engagement, boundary, and exit lines that keep you out of the drama
• Simple nervous-system tools to re-regulate after a triggering comment
• Mindset shifts to stop internalizing her judgment as truth

By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to say: “Her criticism is not a reflection of my worth, it’s a reflection of her unresolved shame.”

Ready to go deeper with this work?

🔹 Download the Mother Wound Survival Kit Get grounding practices, nervous-system tools, and powerful scripts for navigating criticism, guilt trips, and emotional manipulation.

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