Ending a long term relationship is difficult enough with all the fears and uncertainties that go with that but the thought of getting back onto the dating scene after a 20- or 30-year relationship can be even more daunting.



We all hear the horror stories of the current dating scene, particularly online dating, and we're already battle scarred from the breakup of our long term relationship so why would we get back into the dating scene and how do we make sure we end up with the relationship that we want and not a repeat of the relationship that we've just come out of?




THE most important thing in all of this is to know yourself. We all think we know ourselves but how many of us can truly pinpoint what we want? If you're like me, you know exactly what you don't want but what you do want? That's a different matter. And what was your role in the breakup? What ways of behaving do you have that contributed to your unhappiness? Unless you can recognise what you're doing, you'll probably end up in the same relationship feeling the same way that you did before.



With a host of qualifications around relationships, including Internationally Accredited Dating & Relationship coach, NLP Master Coach, Certified Master mBIT Coach and an Authorised Gottman Seven Principles Leader, Debbie Rivers helps and supports people to get the life and the relationships that they've always dreamed of.



Key points:

• 01:22 - If you need to ask how to be happy, there's a big problem


• 01:35 - Why leaving a marriage in never the easy option


• 02:30 - How the fears around dating can get in the way


• 03:46 - Why we believe it's okay to be "just a bit unhappy" in a relationship


• 08:45 - Why staying in a relationship because you have children may not be the best thing to do


• 13:08 - Why many people end up with the same relationship over and over again


• 19:04 - What to do when you don't know what it is you want from a relationship (or life)


• 20:50 - How to find the joy in life


• 26:32 - How to spot your repeat patterns in relationships


• 28:33 - How to figure out if a relationship will work


• 32:44 - How Married At First Sight sets couples up to fail


• 36:42 - The problems with dating as you grow older


• 40:50 - Why dating apps can cause so many problems... and how to overcome that

 
Join us now and find out what it's like to get back onto the dating scene, how to embrace the process, have fun, and be confident in your worth and what you bring to a potential partnership.
 
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