Dating apps have revolutionized how we meet, but in doing so, they often short-circuit the vulnerability required for real connection. After going on 25+ dates in one month, I discovered that while apps are great at generating matches, they rarely help us transition to meaningful, in-person relationships—and may even trap us in fantasy connections that never materialize. These platforms thrive on keeping us swiping, not settling down, optimizing for engagement over emotional growth. Yet, meeting face-to-face (doing the hard thing) was where I found the most value, growth... and even a few sparks. What we need now is a shift in how dating technology is designed: tools that don’t just stoke desire but support courage, presence, and the messy, beautiful work of building something real.