When going through a divorce or de facto separation, one of the biggest questions you’ll face is: Should I settle, or should I go to court? In this episode, we take an in depth look into the reasons why people choose to settle and why others decide to hold out for court. We discuss the risks, costs, and personal factors that play into this decision, while also highlighting potential pitfalls and traps that could influence you to settle too early or too late. Whether you’re in the early stages of property settlement or nearing mediation, this episode will help you think critically about your own situation.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Wish you could speak to others about their decisions to settle or go to court.

• ❓ Want to understand the risks and costs involved in going to court versus settling.

• 💡 Need insights on how to others have avoided settling for a bad offers or been pressured into an agreements.

• 🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and worried about making the right financial decisions and want to listen to what others have done in the past.

• 📚 Want to better understand how lawyers play a role in helping you decide when to settle.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Reasons to Settle: When taking your lawyer’s advice, financial risks, and emotional well-being make settling the best option.

• Risks of Going to Court: The potential for additional costs, including paying for your ex’s legal fees, and how this can impact your decision.

• Understanding Costs: How court costs and lawyer fees add up, and why it’s crucial to factor in these expenses when making your decision.

• Section 117 Offers: What they are, how they work, and why you should think carefully before rejecting a reasonable offer.

• Emotional Factors: How guilt, pressure, or anger can cloud judgement and lead to poor settlement decisions.

• Disclosure Issues: Why it’s essential to have financial disclosure before settling and how to handle situations where your ex isn't sharing all the information.

• Post-Separation Abuse: How ongoing manipulation and control can affect your or their decision to settle, and strategies to protect yourself from further harm.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Related Episodes:

• Understanding Legal Costs and Risks COSTS & CALDERBANK OFFERS

https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog/costscourtcalderbankoffer

• Divorce Myths

https://open.spotify.com/episode/33mBdotbKK4yLH586ZaWko?si=czer_l9VRIOVWxWxGSiJjg

 

• The Premature Pitfalls of Percentage Negotiations

​​https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=UPG5F5vtSNuHWCKwWWg32g

Choosing your lawyer

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0XQOMoxqaSpf5YrxTc50eR?si=KUq4BzFPQaeIndch9p-3QA

 

Red Flags when choosing a lawyer

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6fR3jP75Z4amMlRCsEOAhJ?si=66f50b888bb44784

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

 

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Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope it helps you think critically about when to settle and when to go to court, while also providing the knowledge you need to protect yourself during your divorce journey. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

00:00 Introduction to Settling in Divorce

01:43 Understanding the Role of Lawyers in Settling

06:00 Cost-Benefit Analysis in Court Cases

10:21 Risks of Going to Family Court

16:25 Bad Reasons for Settling 

19:52 Navigating Emotional Decisions in Divorce

20:30 Reasons People Settle in Divorce

21:34 Understanding the Family Law Act in your Divorce

22:49 Challenges with Disclosure in Property Settlement and Divorce

25:27 Unrealistic Expectations in Divorce outcomes

29:24 Dealing with Anger and Abuse during the divorce process

32:05 Denial and Acceptance in Divorce

34:26 Final Thoughts