DiscoverPulling The Thread with Elise LoehnenDo We Misunderstand the Point of Monogamy? (Dan Savage)
Do We Misunderstand the Point of Monogamy? (Dan Savage)

Do We Misunderstand the Point of Monogamy? (Dan Savage)

Update: 2025-10-09
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Longtime sex-advice columnist and author Dan Savage shares how he thinks about monogamy, marriage, infidelity, and repair. We explore how sex and relationships get conflated. We get into identities, orientations, preferences, language, and how we’re raising kids today. Also, Savage’s take on heteropessimism, what makes a man an attractive partner, and a word he introduced me to: tolyamory, meaning tolerating your lover’s BS. There’s so much to unpack in here, and to keep thinking about.

For the show notes, head to my Substack.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Do We Misunderstand the Point of Monogamy? (Dan Savage)

Do We Misunderstand the Point of Monogamy? (Dan Savage)

Elise Loehnen