In this episode, we’re giving you a realistic, 4-week plan to help you and your partner get out of that relationship rut — even if you're super busy, overwhelmed, or feeling disconnected.

No grand gestures. No impossible checklists.

Just simple, thoughtful actions you can start this week to feel closer again — emotionally and physically.

Here’s what we’re covering:

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  The difference between a rut and a red flag 🚩

  
  


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  How we define “realistic” connection (especially if you’ve got zero bandwidth)

  
  


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  A step-by-step, week-by-week game plan you can follow

  
  


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  Specific daily, midweek, and weekend actions to help you reconnect

  
  


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  Why it’s okay to not feel fireworks right away — and what to focus on instead

  
  


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  A challenge to get started right now 👀

  
  

Whether you’ve been together 2 years or 20, this plan can help you feel like a team again — without adding more stress to your plate.

LINKS & RESOURCES

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  📝  4-Week Relationship Reset PDF — Your Companion Workbook for EPISODE 208: Stuck In A Relationship Rut? Here’s Your 4-Week Fix ➡︎ https://free.vmtherapy.com/4-week-reset

  
  


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  👋 The Art of Initiation — your guide to making initiation feel easier, sexier, and more satisfying  ➡︎ https://buy.vmtherapy.com/art-of-initiation?ref=podcast-208&utm_term=-podcast-208

  
  


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  💖 Deeper Membership — full access to our relationship toolkit, core courses, live monthly sessions, and more ➡︎ https://vmtherapy.com/deeper

  
  


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  ✅ Turn Me On: Your Initiation Style Guide — a free guide to discover your unique initiation style (and how to use it!) ➡︎ https://free.vmtherapy.com/initiation-style-guide

  
  

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