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The hashtag #eldestdaughtersyndrome is reported to have had a whopping 24.7 million views on TikTok, and counting, but what is it and why is it getting so much attention?  

We look at the issues faced by the eldest sibling in the family, then talk more specifically about why daughters can feel resentful of the role that's foisted on them. It's easily done by us parents, particularly if we live in a patriarchal society.  

The expectation that they will do more of the emotional and domestic heavy-lifting in the family than the other siblings can teach them great life-skills, even make them successful in the workplace, but it can also make them resentful at missing out on the benefits of childhood. 

In this episode we talk about how we spot it and what can we do to rebalance what might be happening in our family. 

THE EXCELLENT BOOK I MENTIONED:

• The Thorn Birds by Colleen McCullough

USEFUL ARTICLES FROM HOME GIRLS UNITE ON INSTAGRAM:

• https://www.npr.org/2010/11/18/131424878/how-much-does-birth-order-shape-our-lives
• https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/11/first-born-children-eldest-daughter-family-dynamics/675986/
• https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/eldest-daughter-syndrome-oldest-sibling-family-responsibilities

BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS FROM SAGE THERAPY CHICAGO:

• The Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are by Dr. Kevin Leman
• The Eldest Daughter Effect: How Our Family Order Influences Our Lives by 
  Lisette Schuitemaker 
• The Sibling Effect: What the Bonds Among Brothers and Sisters Reveal About Us by Jeffrey Kluger

OtoZen — a new driving safety app
Are you worried about your teenager getting distracted behind the wheel? 

The OtoZen app helps in real time — not just after something’s gone wrong. It has voice alerts, drive scores, and even safe driving challenges you can set together, it’s the kind of tech that actually helps your teen build better habits. 

1. OtoZen Helps Teens Build Safer Driving Habits

2. Empowers Parents Without Hovering

3. Motivates Teens with Streaks and Rewards

4. Privacy-Focused Alternative to Life360

5. Proven Logic, Easy to Use

OtoZen — a new driving safety app
OtoZen helps build better habits in real time with voice alerts, drive scores, and safey challenges.

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