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Have you ever felt like life knocked you flat, leaving you to start over when everyone else seems firmly established? You're not alone in that journey of rebuilding.

At 48, I found myself making just $10,000 a year after once having a stable career, retirement savings, and a home. The crushing weight of feeling "behind" where society says I should be had me questioning my worth on the darkest days. Between divorce, mental health struggles, and periods of financial insecurity that had me skipping meals so my kids could eat, I've faced the brutal reality of starting over in midlife.

What I've discovered through this process is that the metrics we use to measure our lives are fundamentally flawed. Society tells us that by certain ages, we should have specific achievements checked off: career stability, property ownership, financial security. But these markers ignore the complex realities of trauma, systemic barriers, health challenges, and the unpredictable nature of life itself.

The most transformative shift happened when I stopped seeing myself as a "loser" and recognized myself as a survivor. This isn't just a semantic difference – it fundamentally changes how we value ourselves and our journeys. Survivors acknowledge their resilience, honor their capacity to endure, and recognize that continuing forward takes immense courage. Your achievements, whatever they may be, are testament to your determination to keep going.

Whether you're rebuilding after divorce, career setbacks, health challenges, or other life upheavals, remember that your timeline is your own. The unaccomplished life isn't a permanent condition – it's simply a chapter in an ongoing story of reinvention. Your worth exists independently of your bank account, job title, or relationship status, and recognizing this truth is the first step toward creating a future aligned with who you truly are.

Sign up for my newsletter "Not Just Surviving But Thriving" on my website where we'll explore how to move beyond mere survival into a life of possibility and purpose. Because no matter where you are in your journey, it's never too late to become the best version of yourself that's ever existed.

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