Ep 287 -- The question that could be destroying your relationships "Why?"

Ep 287 -- The question that could be destroying your relationships "Why?"

Update: 2025-07-22
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In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts delve into the problematic nature of judgmental 'why' questions in relationships. They discuss how such questions, even when asked with genuine curiosity, can come across as accusatory and trigger defensive reactions. The episode explores the significance of tone, timing, and past traumas in how people respond to 'why' questions. The hosts provide actionable advice on reframing these questions to promote understanding and emotional safety, offering alternative ways to communicate that build connection rather than conflict. The insights shared are applicable to various relationships, including marriage, parenting, and self-talk.
00:00  Introduction and Episode Overview
01:11  The Impact of Judgmental 'Why' Questions
05:13  Key Factors: Tone, Timing, and Trauma Echoes
07:10  Alternatives to 'Why' Questions
11:40  Building New Communication Habits
14:51  Recap and Final Thoughts

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Ep 287 -- The question that could be destroying your relationships "Why?"

Ep 287 -- The question that could be destroying your relationships "Why?"

Timothy Olson / Ruth Olson - Inspired by Brene Brown, Mel Robbins, Tony Robbins