Does your relationship ever feel like it swings from intense connection to deep frustration—and then back again? If so, you may be married to a Vacillator. In today’s episode, we’re diving into what it’s like to live and love with this emotional love style, and how you can find more stability and connection together.

💬 “Being married to a Vacillator can feel like navigating emotional whiplash—passionate connection one moment, frustration and distance the next.”

This episode is all about understanding the why behind the ups and downs—and learning how to build trust and steadiness in a sensitive, emotionally-charged marriage.

🧭 What You’ll Learn:

• What defines the Vacillator Love Style and where it originates
• Why Vacillators often feel disappointed or emotionally overwhelmed
• The impact this love style has on a marriage
• What a Vacillator truly needs from their spouse
• How Vacillators themselves can grow emotionally and spiritually

💡 Key Traits of a Vacillator:

• Craves deep connection, but fears rejection
• Easily feels hurt or let down by perceived distance
• Struggles with waiting, emotional regulation, and trust
• Idealizes, then devalues their spouse when expectations aren’t met

📖 Scriptures Mentioned:

• Isaiah 30:18 – “The Lord longs to be gracious to you…”
• 1 Corinthians 13:4–5 – “Love is patient, love is kind… it is not easily angered…”
• Psalm 62:5–6 – “For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence… He only is my rock…”

❤️ 3 Practical Things Vacillators Need:

1. Consistent and Predictable Connection
   → Small follow-throughs build trust and soothe abandonment fears.
2. Attuned Listening Without Defensiveness
   → Validation and reflection are more healing than explanation.
3. Grace When They Emotionally Escalate
   → Compassion in their emotional moments creates safety, not shame.

💬 “Vacillators heal when love stops being unpredictable and starts becoming trustworthy.”

🎯 Take Action:

• 📤 Share this episode with someone navigating emotional cycles in their marriage
• 🌐 Visit ExpeditionMarriage.org for biblical tools and counseling

• • ⭐️ Leave a review to help others find truth and encouragement