DiscoverYour Coaching JourneyEpisode 111: Coaching Topics: Difficult Conversations - How to have good ones.
Episode 111: Coaching Topics: Difficult Conversations - How to have good ones.

Episode 111: Coaching Topics: Difficult Conversations - How to have good ones.

Update: 2025-06-06
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Following on from our previous podcast episode where we discussed why people might choose to avoid difficult conversations, in this episode we talk about the difference between having difficult conversations badly or having them well.

 

From considering the pros and cons of having a particular conversation; deciding whether to have the conversation or not; preparing for the conversation; and then managing the conversation, we’ve got it all covered.

 

Join us for this podcast, as we take you through some practical approaches that you might wish to explore with coachees who find themselves in a situation where it might be good to be having a difficult conversation.

 

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DODO - Preparing for a difficult conversation

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Episode 111: Coaching Topics: Difficult Conversations - How to have good ones.

Episode 111: Coaching Topics: Difficult Conversations - How to have good ones.

Tom Dillon & Helen Leathers