“You know what you should do?”

“Stop! That’s now how you’re supposed to do it!”

“Okay, here’s what you should do…”

Can you hear yourself saying those words? Can you picture that person in your life or in your past constantly telling you what you should and shouldn’t do? Does it make you cringe a little?

Most of us can relate to moment or two where you proceeded to tell someone what they should or shouldn’t do, and/or preached about how things are “supposed” to be. These words don’t necessarily reflect some sort of absolute truth, but they do reflect the governing rules of our lives and relationships.

But what happens when the rule system collapses? What “should” we do then? In this episode of Therapists’ Take, Carrie and Josh will address just that and more. Below you will find the talking points for the show (don’t forget to to give us that much desired 5-star review if you like the podcast):

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00:00 - Hi, Carrie! I learned something!

08:20 - Show Overview

09:27 - Explaining Concept of “Governing Rules”?

14:47 - When the Rules Collapse?

22:12 - Changing the Rules

33:05 - Polishing the Edges

35:42 - Books on Rule Failure

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Great Books/Stories about Rule Failure
- Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl - https://amzn.to/43mbXoT

- When a Monster Calls by Patrick Ness - https://amzn.to/49QrPT6

- Will by Will Smith - https://amzn.to/3Trm6MO

- Hurting with God by Glenn Pemberton - https://amzn.to/3IKtSfr

- Sapiens by Yuval Harari - https://amzn.to/3TmjH61

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Therapy Resources:

Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com

Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357

The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/

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About the Hosts

Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com.

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