Episode 189 - The High Costs of Perfectionism and How to Manage Them with Self-Compassion
Description
In this, episode, we're diving deep into the complex world of perfectionism, especially its impact on creativity and leadership. Our distinguished guest, Sanela Lukanovic, Co-Founder of Seldom, Senior Leadership and Life Coach, shared profound insights on how perfectionism can be both a driving force and a debilitating obstacle for leaders.
Sanela discusses the paradox of perfectionism, spotlighting how it often stifles creativity and innovation in leadership roles, yet can be crucial in specific tasks. She opens up about her personal journey of separating self-worth from achievement and the pitfalls of comparing oneself to others during career transitions.
Sanela Lukanovic brings her expertise in executive coaching to the table, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion in managing perfectionism. She shares her own evolution from a perfectionist corporate persona to a more authentic, self-compassionate leader. Sanela also offers actionable advice on how leaders can nurture their teams without succumbing to self-criticism and burnout.
Together, we explore the damaging effects of negative self-talk, the subconscious nature of self-criticism, and the necessity of aligning with one's core values. Whether you're struggling with career decisions, battling perfectionism, or simply looking for inspiration to lead with more confidence and purpose, this episode is packed with wisdom and practical tips.
Don't miss this enriching discussion on how to transform perfectionism from a detriment into a tool for genuine growth and leadership excellence. Tune in now!
Time Stamps:
00:00 Chose economics over psychology due to advice.
04:49 Childhood ambitions versus adult career and self-doubt.
08:43 Corporate success didn't bring lasting happiness or fulfillment.
10:13 Career change seekers often struggle with self-comparison.
13:22 Ask, "Do I want this and why?"
16:54 Intentionality in balancing potential success and sacrifice.
21:34 Perfectionism misunderstood, hindering rather than aiding excellence.
23:27 Perfectionism hinders decisiveness; affect on leadership.
27:09 Perfectionism stifles creativity; leaders must be flexible.
30:19 Overworking leads to burnout and self-stagnation.
35:50 Self-criticism isn't productive or beneficial.
38:40 Abandoning perfectionism for bravery and peace.
40:29 Balance self-compassion with pursuing excellence for growth.
43:26 Thank you for reducing our self-criticism.
Connect with Sanela: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sanelalukanovic-executivecoach/
Website: https://www.selfdom.life/
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