In social justice circles a word that often gets thrown around is "microaggressions": What they are, where they come from, which ones will and won't get you "canceled." What all of this discourse fails to do is properly explain how it feels to be on the receiving end of them, exactly what growing up and living with this offhand background noise of bigotry can do to your day-to-day self esteem. I sat down with one of my friends and we talked about it, and now I'm sharing it with you!