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From Reactive to Ritual: Creating Agreements for Fighting Well

From Reactive to Ritual: Creating Agreements for Fighting Well

Update: 2025-10-17
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Most couples think fighting is a sign something’s wrong. But what if conflict is actually a doorway to deeper connection—when done well?


In this short, powerful episode, Mike and Courtney guide you through how to move from reactivity to ritual by creating simple agreements that transform fights into opportunities for intimacy and growth.

They share their top three agreements every couple should have, how to interrupt recurring conflict patterns, and why ritualizing repair builds safety, tone, and resilience in your nervous system.


🌿 In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why couples repeat the same fights (and how to break the cycle)

  • The 3 essential agreements every couple needs:

    1. The Sacred Pause

    2. “I” Statements

    3. No Bond Threats

  • How to create rituals of connection in conflict

  • Why physical touch during disagreements builds safety

  • How to use shared agreements to build trust, tone, and repair

📍 Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships

01:00 Why We Repeat the Same Fights

04:00 How Our Conditioning Shapes Conflict

08:00 Why Rituals Keep Relationships Safe

11:00 The Sacred Pause

13:00 “I” Statements

17:00 No Bond Threats

22:00 How to Create Your Own Agreements

26:00 Final Thoughts + Free Gift


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From Reactive to Ritual: Creating Agreements for Fighting Well

From Reactive to Ritual: Creating Agreements for Fighting Well

Michael Elliott and Courtney Wren