How do you get your kid to take accountability for their mistakes?
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815. Why do kids sometimes get defensive, shut down, or lash out after they’ve made a mistake, broken a rule or hurt someone’s feelings? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explains how to compassionately help children notice their impact without shame, while helping them take meaningful steps toward repairing relationship ruptures through the action-based making of amends.
Sources:
McCloud, C. (2018). Buckets, dippers, and lids: Secrets to your happiness. Bucket Fillers.
Sandland, B. (2025). Neurodivergent Experiences of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria Expose the Environmental Factors too Often Overlooked. Neurodiversity, 3. https://doi.org/10.1177/27546330251394516
Related Project Parenthood Episodes:
Stop forcing your child to apologize
Repairing the Break: How to Fix Things with Your Kid
The First Step to Solve Child Behavior Problems
Dr. Coor’s Related Blog:
A Stitch in Time Saves Nine: Relational Repair After Parent-Child Conflicts
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