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How to Have Sex Again After a Long Dry Spell

How to Have Sex Again After a Long Dry Spell

Update: 2025-11-10
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Let’s be honest, every long-term relationship has seasons where sex gets pushed aside. Between changing bodies, kids, work stress, money stress, and just plain exhaustion, months can slip into years without intimacy. So what do you do when you want sex again, but it feels awkward, foreign, or even impossible to bring up?


In this Language of Love Bite, I walk you through how to gently break the silence, rebuild emotional closeness, and take small but powerful steps back into an erotic connection with your partner. You will see that reigniting passion is not about pressure or performance, it is about safety, communication, and rediscovering each other in a playful, sensual way.


We discuss:




  • Why passion fades in long-term relationships (and how resentment sneaks in)




  • The role of emotional safety and non-sexual touch in reawakening desire




  • How to use “sensate focus” to rebuild intimacy step by step




  • The surprising power of non-demand kissing to spark erotic energy




  • A sensual awakening ritual you can try tonight to gently reignite connection




  • When and how to seek support from a certified sex therapist (AASECT.org)




Desire is never truly gone, it is just waiting for permission to return.


If you want to go deeper into creating sacred, satisfying intimacy, check out my book Sex Magic for step-by-step practices to awaken erotic pleasure and deepen connection. And do not forget to subscribe to the Language of Love podcast for more bite-sized tools to transform your love life.

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How to Have Sex Again After a Long Dry Spell

How to Have Sex Again After a Long Dry Spell

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