Welcome back to another powerful episode of the Equestrian Performance Mindset Podcast with I and  Lorna. In this raw and relatable conversation, We dive deep into what happens when competition doesn’t go as planned, and how to mentally regroup when your best efforts still fall short.

Lorna shares her recent and emotionally intense experience at a dressage competition where things spiraled out of control, despite months of hard work and preparation.

We unpack the rollercoaster of emotions, from frustration and self-doubt to shame and anger, that follow a disappointing performance.

You’ll learn:

• Why mental toughness isn’t about “having it all together” but rather your ability to navigate discomfort.


• How to process disappointment without judgment and move forward with compassion.


• The power of reframing failure and reconnecting with your “why.”


• Why sitting with your emotions is not weakness, it’s part of growth.


• How community, connection, and vulnerability can help you feel less alone in the journey.

Whether you’ve had a tough weekend or are questioning your path, this episode is for every rider who's ever walked out of the arena thinking, “What’s the point?” You'll leave feeling seen, supported, and equipped with tools to take one small step forward, even on the hardest days.

Resources mentioned:

🧠 5 Mental Tools: https://www.mindeq.eu/mentaltools

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