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How to Stop Yelling and Stay Calm as a Parent

How to Stop Yelling and Stay Calm as a Parent

Update: 2025-10-02
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Are your kids’ fights setting off your emotions—and the whole house?Most parents try to “fix” kids’ behavior to feel better. In this video, Greg & Rachel flip the script: change your emotional state first, and your family dynamics follow. You’ll learn how to stop masking (“trying to stay calm”) and start being emotionally authentic—so you model regulation your kids can actually imitate.


We unpack practical tools to raise your family’s emotional thermostat—even on low-sleep, low-food days: breathing exercises, light movement, gratitude micro-meditations, future journaling, and morning routines that shift your biochemistry fast. You’ll discover why sleep and nutrition are foundational, how to process triggers and “memorized emotions,” and how to radiate steadiness kids naturally copy.


Big idea: Nothing gets better until you do. When you upgrade your inner state, parenting gets easier, marriage gets warmer, and home feels safe again. This is how you cultivate a family culture of peace, courage, and joy—without pretending or suppressing.


  • Try this today (1-minute reset): Stand tall, inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 6 (x6 rounds). Add one gratitude sentence and smile on purpose. Notice the shift—then go connect.


    Key Takeaways

    ✅ Nothing gets better until you do — when you raise your state, your family follows.

    ✅ Kids imitate without regulation — they copy your energy, good or bad.

    ✅ Trying to “stay calm” is masking — practice authentic emotional expression.

    ✅ Sleep & food drive mood — protect your physiology to parent better.

    ✅ Quick resets work — breathing, movement, posture, and gratitude change your state fast.

    ✅ Every family has an emotional thermostat — set yours higher on purpose.

    ✅ Mentor, don’t micromanage — see misbehavior as a cry for help and coach skills.


    Memorable Quote:

    🗣️ “Nothing gets better until I do.”

    🗣️ “Kids imitate without regulation—set the state you want repeated.”

    🗣️ “Trying to be calm isn’t calm. Authentic peace is felt, not faked.”


    Chapters

    00:00 Navigating Emotional States in Parenting

    01:10 The Impact of Emotions on Family Dynamics

    02:28 Understanding Emotional Responses and Reactions

    03:54 The Role of Self-Care in Emotional Well-Being

    05:29 Practicing Emotional Authenticity

    06:51 Strategies for Changing Emotional States

    08:21 The Ripple Effect of Parental Emotions

    10:44 Emotional Literacy and Family Dynamics

    12:21 The Emotional Thermostat of the Family

    16:24 Understanding the Emotional Thermostat

    20:58 Practical Strategies for Emotional Regulation

    24:11 The Role of Parenting in Emotional Development

    27:37 Seeing Children's Behaviors as Cries for Help



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    How to Stop Yelling and Stay Calm as a Parent

    How to Stop Yelling and Stay Calm as a Parent

    Greg and Rachel Denning